The SD's turn 18 on the 24th and they have planned a trip to the beach to go fishing in the bay. DH got tickets and everything. Its been full on ignore mode in the house here with them. Miniwife has been more annoying with the baby talking and planning. She has to know eveything that is going on in the house. DH tells her when, what time, who and what. He then expects me to know whats going on but I dont bc communication. We had the little discussion with her about movie planning and taking advantage of my sister who is sick and she told Clueless that I yelled at her, " Im the only mom you have!" then talked smack about her BM who passed. Shes been snarky and hides up in her room all day talking and texting the BF. 

Clueless on the other hand has been more open and she seems to appreciate what I do for her. I would like to think that is true, yet the last time I thought that it was a rouse. I was told many mean things and the appreciation was smashed with words of betrayal. Clueless was harsh and held on to every tiny detail. Is she doing that now? I will never know but I am hoping we can move past that. 

I have withdrawn any and all efforts to take them out, I dont buy them things any more aside from groceries and I dont take them with me if Im doing something fun. I am not putting myself out there only to be slapped in the face.

In any case, I have chosen not to go with them on thier birthday. I am still thinking about getting or making them a cake the day before but I dont know yet. I know they say you catch more bees honey but I feel done. I dont care and their DH doesnt care to hold them accountable for anything. Dh was really disappionted when I told him I was not going. I told him to invite SS (19) to go instead and he is. The SD's get their wish and get to have their dad all to themselves. I myself will be at a party with my family.