Crazy BM and Drug Addict SS21 - Have a Question - Need some Advice
So drug addict SS21 just entered his 6th program in as many months (never finishes) to deal with his heroin addiction and bi polar issues. Good he is 3000 miles away I hope he never comes back. So crazy enabling BM calls yesterday and wanted my DH to pay his $800 fine when he got arrested in November - DH hearing about this for the first time - for posssion of drug paraphernalia. DH says no way he is paying SS21 needs to pay since it is his problem. (GOOD ANSWER DH). Of course SS21 was giving my DH his usual load of crap about how he is really trying to stay sober and get a job - neither of which he did - until his crazy enabling BM found a another rehab place for him.
She, of course, sends long letter about how DH never gives to his children - I guess paying for cars, schools and weddings does not count. Besides giving is more than just money - but BM is only concerned about that.
I am amazed that she does not get that the kid needs to learn about consquences. I say if SS21 cant pay maybe some time in jail would do him so good.
My question is there anyway we can legally stop her from the continued calls and harrassing emails about paying for him? It never ends! We have already paid a lot of money in rebab costs and we are not paying anymore - even if we had it.
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Yes, you can tell her to stop
Yes, you can tell her to stop calling and harrassing you and your DH and if it continues you will call the police and file a report. Then you will file a restaining order or protective order.
If your CO doesn't say DH has to pay for illegal behavior fines or addiction programs or such, then he doesn't have to pay and quiet frankly, this kid is not a kid he is 21 years old. AN ADULT!!!
Time for him to grow up! Daddy can not rescue him anymore.
Obviously, the BM is attempting to "guilt" DH into doing more than he has to for this adult. Wanting money to make the issue go away persay instead of letting 21 y/o deal with the consequences of his poor judgement and actions.
I think you should send her a text or email that say that as of this day and time you will consider any further communication harrassment and will have not choice but to file a report with the police and a protect/restraining order with the local court.
Then when and if she contacts you again, you can follow through.
Good Luck!
All support for SS21 is over
All support for SS21 is over - he is no longer in school so legally my DH does not have to pay for anything. Out of the kindness of his heart he has agreed to continue to pay for health insurance until he turns 26 but that is it. He is under no obligation at all.