I have 2 kids, boy 24, girl 28, my H has 4 kids, boys 19, 25, & 31, girl 28. I have a loving, close relationship with my 2 kids and 3 of his 4. We have been married 19 yrs. and 4 years ago after 4 years in the Army out of state and 2 in college out of state his oldest moved back home just until "he found a job and got back on his feet". That was 4 years ago and now he's 31 and shows no signs of leaving any time soon.