jwkstepmom… I’m so sorry you have such a horrific roll model and person as your skids BM. We talk a lot about Karma coming back to bite the bums of idiots like these, but in the meantime… make sure your DH talks to the skids and lets them know that by NO MEANS will that kind of talk be allowed in your house, and explain how hurtful saying those kinds of thongs can be.

My mom taught me best when it came my turn to start experimenting with “colorful language”… she said to me “Only people with low intelligence levels use those kinds of bad words… because their vocabularies aren’t good enough to come up with anything better to say, and it just proves how stupid they are.”

Wow, I wish I could say I'm surprised but I'm getting to the point that nothing these crazies do is surprising me anymore. Geesh!

Yep been there done that but it was also my son as well. Bm would call my son all kinds of names and tell the boys that my son in a menace to satiety. SHe even so far as to try to get him arrested several times and called dhs saying I let him beat her oldest which is 3x as big as my son. The police pretty much laughed at her and dhs told me to sue.

Sadly, in the eyes of a child just hearing BM call the SM a bitch or a whore ,the child is being taught by example that it is, in fact, okay to call SM those same names.

Our BM told the kids they didn't have to do anything I said. I am sure other things as well, but that was the one that kept coming up again and again. Made it difficult. DH told them that I was an adult in the house and that they would do as I asked. I started using the statement to DH when he didn't see the big problem that would he or BM allow the kids to treat any other adult that way so why is it okay to talk to me like that.

You need to somehow have DH let her know that things she says gets repeated and in the future, she may not like what the kids say about her.