Court update
It was a hearing to set another hearing. I knew it as soon as I found out we were on a regular docket day.
#1- I am so glad we didn't fly out.
#2- I am glad that our lawyer was able to teleconference so we didn't have to pay 3 hrs of travel time for him.
We know we have an open and shut case for contempt that she can't contest. It is just a matter of getting in front of the judge.
Hopefully we will have the hearing in March and I can do a surprise 40th birthday party for my husband in his hometown with his family and old friends. Maybe this is all happening for a reason because I wouldn't be able to get his whole family here.
Trying REALLY hard to keep things positive!!
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I just don't understand why
I just don't understand why you need a hearing to set a hearing. Court is frustrating, isn't it?
I hate BM with a passion but
I hate BM with a passion but I will say, her lawyer's ability to stall, postpone, delay and redirect is really impressive. It defies all logic but it works, at least in rural, proBM America.
Oh geeze the ole, hearings to
Oh geeze the ole, hearings to set hearings bs. ]
What I also call that is both lawyers chit chatting with the Judge about the case, figuring out the end game. Seems like lawyers figure it out AND see if the Judge will agree to it. Who cares what the law says, right?
Glad you didnt purchase a ticket.
So do you figure that now SS
So do you figure that now SS will not be coming for his Christmas visitation?
Those plane tickets were
Those plane tickets were purchased back in September... but who knows.
All of this is the last thing
All of this is the last thing you need.
I can't believe the judge was
I can't believe the judge was trying to insist on your husband being there for this BS. Family court is seriously a joke.
When my husband was going through his custody case I think there were 4 different hearings just to basically set other hearings. Such a waste of time. It's under the ploy of giving the parents to work things out without a judge intervening, but if they could do that they wouldn't need court...duh. In the meantime BM was able to drag things out for over a year and make sure she got every holiday and called all the shots until they finally got in front of a judge.
5 years to get an actual
5 years to get an actual order and then we have been fighting for her to follow that since! Seriously, I have lost all faith in the judicial system due to our experiences.
It is insane to my that me and my ex had 1 hearing, we met with the mediator before hand, had it all worked out. We had a few ruffled feathers over the years but nothing to even remotely bring us back to a court room. It was done. It was simple. Co-parenting is really not hard.
I think that we have been in a court room at least 2-3 times per year since they split.
Court extended
We are in the same boat. They can really set the next date to March?? Oh no I may have misread.
BM is clearly in contempt also, so we are waiting to get in front of a judge too. It was continued twice and now set for mediation with an unknown date. We know it won't settle there and so next would be a hearing. Wow lawyers and Judges really do anything to not hear a case or delay one. The only good part is with court overhead all the time suddenly, BM seems to follow the order so that's good. Yea positives helps with these type situations for sure.
Unfortunately for your
Unfortunately for your situation, the court system has pretty much zero interest in finding a bio mother acting as the primary parent in contempt. While you may see your case as cut and dried.. they are still not going to be inclined to punish her.. put her in jail or enforce serious financial fines on a mother who is acting as the primary parent for an "absent father" who lives a planeride away when the teen son is estranged from him and his new wife.
They will put off and continue things until he either drops the rope.. or there is some level of compliance that they can justify is "better than nothing". You want her punished... but that seems to be the most ulikely of outcomes.. even if they slap a fine on her.. getting payment will be a whole new problem for him.
Then you have the very root of the rotten tooth... the boy is not interested in a relationship and has been fairly steadfast in that stance. Even when he did come for a visit not long ago.. it did not go particularly well. He is at the age where a court may give more credence and leniency when a child doesn't want to continue visitation. Whether this is PAS.. or some fallout from conflict over other issues.. the boy has refused contact repeatedly.. even in situations where your DH has tried end runs around his EX. The courts may find that they don't want to force something if there is some possibility that your home is not a positive environment for him.. (I am not saying it isn't.. I'm saying that is what the kid is claiming...how do they know who to believe?).
And... in some ways.. you can't blame the kid for aligning with his mother... she IS his home.. she is the one that provides care for him almost all of the time.. his dad did "leave"... and it's hard to change those things.