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Submitted by just.his.wife on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 4:09pm

I think some of our DH's/ SO's/DF's/OH's need to go back to thinking with their other head.

Seems they thought that way with BM and they refuse to argue or engage in any confrontation with her. Likely due to be trained while young and dumb Arguing with BM = No Sex.

Then the second wife comes around, encourages actual mental thought and using the gray matter between his ears and everything falls to crap because he is still trained by BM. Big head and little head get confused, due to age and hormonal waning in older years the little guys voice is getting drowned out by gray matter thinking "I so don't want to deal with this."

Maybe we need to rethink having our spouses/sig others actually think. Forget the gray matter. Let them think with the little head. Especially think of who is taking care of the 'thoughts' that little guy is having and perhaps they will start treating their new wives better. Not arguing, making kids mind, homework, follow through and you know actually WANT to spend time with us, alone, so the little guys 'thoughts' can be acted upon.

**Note: this idea excludes Draco, Rags, Old Dart and a few of the other guys on here that actually seem to know HOW to use their gray matter. This is for the men that have not a clue how that lump of fat, nerves, veins and blood is supposed to function.

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NCMilGal's picture

Submitted by NCMilGal on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 5:10pm

Meh.

I don't have bios, and I don't want to be a full-time parent. (and before the BMs get all up in arms, my SD is a teenager, and BM doesn't ALLOW us enough time to BE parents - just walking checkbooks)

If I started making all the decisions and told DH to let me do the thinking - he'd acquiesce, but he'd be just like a skid; I'd have to chase after him and nag ALL THE TIME to get him to go by my rules. It'd be like parenting, except worse.

I'd rather have him help MAKE the damn decisions so he has a stake in standing up for them. I will admit, he has a pretty good history of refusing to buy into BM's shenanigans.

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Submitted by LilyBelle on Thu, 05/03/2012 - 2:02pm

I think we certainly can use that little head to our advantage. If we keep our men focused on that bond they feel with us, and that great feeling they can't get from family members, it might be to our advantage.

"sweet thing, I'd love to give you a BJ if only I knew the children wouldn't look in on us."

"DH, you stood up to ___ so well, it makes me realize what a strong sexy man you are...."

Yep, we could keep them thinking on that all the time.