Good Gawd....just shoot me now. The wedding is early October, and they got engaged last New Year's Eve. This emotionally immature, spoiled, self-absorbed, entitled brat has talked of nothing else sense getting engaged.

She & her sister (SD15) treated DH & I like shit when he & I got married (which is precisely why he & I eloped because we didn't want them or their mother ruining our day). Yet, we're supposed to be all giddy about her impending wedding? Don't think so.

Yesterday DH became my official hero! He had a long conversation with OSD, telling her that he & I are really struggling about her wedding. We want to feel happy for her, but it's difficult after she treated us so badly when we got married. He told her that we had exactly 48 hours of wedded bliss before she and her sister shit all over us. And that, just like she feels now, we had been SO excited about our life together, the future, etc. But, no, she and her sister had made sure we didn't get to feel happy once they got word that we'd been married.

He told her that we will be there at her wedding, and do our best to support her on her day, but that she needs to understand that there will be NO pictures that include both him and her mother. She needs to instruct the photographer to take BM's side of the family photos and DH's side of the family photos.

She started crying & whining about how she wished he'd reconsider because she just REALLY wants a wedding day photo of her with BOTH of her parents.

He said, "Are you kidding me? After all the hideous shit your mother has said to me and done to me? No. Absolutely not. This is a boundary that I'm setting with you right here & now and you need to respect it. I have done for you and your sister all your lives, and put my own happiness on the back burner more times than you can possibly imagine. But this is not up for discussion. There will be NO photos that include both your mother and me. And to make sure that happens, I will speak to the photograph myself when I arrive that day. Do you understand?"

Then she wanted to start whining about how she needed help with things getting ready for the wedding (she didn't say what precisely), and was I going to help her or what.

WTF????

He told her that I'd offered to help her on more than one occasion over these past months, and she has rebuffed me every time. So, I've stopped offering any help. And that if she wants me to help her, she needs to come and apologize TO MY FACE for the way she treated both he & I when we married and how she's treated me since.

She said, "But....doesn't time heal everything?"

WTF?????

He said, "Time HELPS heal things, but without a sincere apology, time is merely a band-aid on a cancerous tumor. You created this wound, and you need to be the one to heal it. And the place you need to start is with me. You owe me an apology as well."

He is officially my hero!!!!!!!!!

She apologized to him on the spot. He said she was crying and all pitiful, most likely hoping her dadddyyyyyy would stop being so mean to her.

The started whining about how her wedding was going to be the most dysfunctional event ever held; that the groom's own mother might not even attend; and no one wants to be in pictures with her mother (well, duh); etc., etc. And she just wished everyone could put aside their issues for 4 hours, so she could just enjoy "her" day.

He told her that she had her priorities all screwed up. It isn't about the ceremony, it's about the marriage and until she started to understand that, she was probably going to make all the same mistakes he had made in his marriage to her mother.

Hero. Love him.

Meanwhile, his spawn do not have enough of his DNA in them to make them remotely nice people to be around.

You see how she kept circling back to trying to get her way about the photos? She is just as manipulative as her mother....which is why he knows he'll have to tell the photographer how it's going to be...because his daughter never will. She'll try to just work it so that she gets what she wants.