Hi fellow STalkers, hope everyone is surviving the holidays & had a nice Christmas. I haven't posted much in awhile, just kind of sitting back reading the posts and occasionally posting a reply. That's not to say there hasn't been any drama with my skids, because I could write a mini series at this point Maybe I'll find time to write about some of it soon but today I've got a strange problem I don't recall anyone ever posting about and I'm hoping to get some insight from my wise and wonderful Stalker friends.

I have a friend whom I thought was really close, in fact, she refers to herself as my 'sister'. My DH & I have included her in several family & friend functions, so she pretty much knows my in-laws and my skids, as well as one of my bio sisters. She's been my confidante with a lot of the drama going on with the skids, and she was a SM, although she is currently going through a divorce. She also has two adult bio kids. Sometimes I get a little uncomfortable with her being around the family & friends as she has a tendency to say or do things that make others uncomfortable, like talk about their weight, body type, how they do things, etc., just really off the wall stuff. This summer at one of the pool parties we threw she kept making not-so-subtle comments about my SD's boyfriend; how 'hot' he was, what a great body, a nice boy-toy, just really suggestive comments (the kid was 19 yrs old!) The last time she was invited for a family function, she ended up going home with one of the guests. Not really a shocker in this day and age, but none the less a little awkward since she had only known him for a few hours. My friend has a way of always trying to make me feel guilty if I don't invite her to family functions, but when she is invited and accepts, she cancels at the last minute if she gets a booty call from some guy she's just met online.

As I mentioned, she has been my confidante when it comes to the skids and a few other issues. Recently I noticed on Facebook she has become friends with my 21 yr old SD. She really has no reason to befriend this girl, the only connection is me. They don't normally talk in person with the exception of acknowledging the other's presence. There have been a lot of issues aired on F/B that have caused my SD and I problems in the past, (yes, I hate F/B for that very reason. If it wasn't for keeping in touch with my sister and my nieces, I would shut my page down in a heartbeat) She also friended my SIL, which annoyed me but ok,not a big deal, but this with my SD really pisses me off. Maybe it shouldn't, but I feel betrayed. I hate to dump my friend but I really have to wonder if anything we've discussed in confidence is going to come back and bite me on the ass. Anyone else ever had this dilemma? What's the best way to handle it?