Thanx to this website's creator that allows people to share their experiences and advise. I met my current BF almost 7 yrs ago when he was separated from his wife though not legally. He'd been married for 13 yrs and 9 of those years had been hell. He is the kind who believes in staying in a bad marriage for the kids sake. He has 2 kids. After a while he said he wanted to work things out again with his wife. He went back to his wife, things were o.k. at the beginning then the wife went back to her old ways of seeing other men which was the initial reason they had separated. She was coming home late, neglected the kids, chronic lying and doing stuff that was very disrespectful and spiteful. She physically abused my BF and I took pictures of bruises on his back. I told him to press charges but he refused saying that will complicate things more and make the wife mad. He is a very soft spoken guy and its easy to take advantage of him. He decided to find out what she was doing after she left work that made her come home late so that he could have evidence when filing for divorce. The day his wife received the divorce papers, she filed false allegations of physical resulting in a restraining order that had him kicked out of the house. She also stopped working. Temporary support and visitation orders were passed before the main divorce hearing. They had joint custody but my BF could only see his kids at the wife's convenience. This was very frustrating because he loved his kids very much and was going for a long period without seeing or hearing from them. In the mean time my BF's lawyer was dragging on getting necessary info. and getting a hearing date. By then my BF had spent so much money on the case and was going completely broke. since 2004 till present, the case is still pending. We had a baby last year and early this year, I met his daughter for the first time. When his wife learnt of the new baby, she turned psycho calling my Bf and leaving threatening messages and even stooped so low to call the baby very derogatory insults. No normal person gets to that point no matter how mad one is. She again filed for restraining orders and even filed false child abuse charges against my BF and I. She tried to turn the kids against their father which didn't work. The divorce case has been postponed numerous times and this month, it was pushed to early next year. That's going to be three years of waiting for my Bf. She stopped working and started collecting food stamps so show how my BF has neglected his kids. My Bf has never missed paying for the mortgage as ordered by the judge. He is left with money that can't even sustain him alone. I go to school, work full-time and am a mom, let alone this woman who does not work and wants other people to take care of her coz she is not even genuinely interested her children's welfare. Why can't she move on with the guys she was going out with? After all, they satisfy her better than her husband used to according to one voicemail that she left on my BF's phone. But she knows those men don't even come close to being responsible coz if they were, she could have actually settled with one of them. Now that she sees my BF is happy, she can't deal with that. She is so evil that she can't even see the pain she is putting her kids thro when she tries to cut them off from their dad. Its all about herself. Has anyone else experienced such a nightmare?