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Submitted by just.his.wife on Tue, 11/13/2012 - 8:20am

I posted last week about BM and her stupidity in her most recent court filing.

DH called the court house today, advised them we were out of town and the hearing date would have to be rescheduled. New hearing date, February 4th. So yes we can go see family for Christmas.

His attorney is also counterfiling this week.

1) Dismissal of contempt backed up by the restraining orders that prevent BM from seeing the kids.

2) Dismissal of SD18's charge that she isn't allowed to see her siblings. Backed up by the court order showing she is to call and arrange the meetings at our home, for a duration of no more than 2 hours. He is also submitting phone records to show she has not called to set these up. The whole 3 phone calls DH has gotten from her phone number(s) since July deqlt with her asking him to bail her out of jail (2) and her being pissed off that the judge would not drop the RO that keeps her away from BM (1).

3) Harassment using legal means.

4) Attornies fees for the time the attorney spent prepping the dismissals.

5) Full legal and physical custody of the children. Permanent order to supercede the temp order in place since BM has not: a) settled her cases b) attended the parenting classes she was ordered to attend c) attended the anger management classes she was ordered to attend (I missed that one, DH found it in the paperwork) d) had the psych eval ordered by the judge that signed the temp CO.

***Note: all of the above BM could have done for FREE while she was in jail. She chose not to.***

Additionally, when BM pissed off my employer by falsely accusing her of not paying taxes: SASX sicced the company attorney on her. Who apparently sicced a PI on BM. We have the report. BM is currently employed, and making more than she made previously. So DH added

6) Formal CS modification based on current salaries, for three teenagers, full time living with the father (100/0 split).

I wish I could be a fly on the wall when she is served. DH wants her served at her new work to let her know that he knows she is working.

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Submitted by just.his.wife on Tue, 11/13/2012 - 8:26am

Forgot to mention, that last bit about CS will also request it be auto deducted from her check and sent through the state. Since she is already in arrears again.

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Submitted by NCMilGal on Tue, 11/13/2012 - 8:30am

I have a total internet crush on you and your DH for the way you are handling this mess.

Watching the crazy play out is soooo satisfying, although I'm sorry you're stuck in it. It's much more satisfying than us trying to confront our BM would be - for one, ours is not quite crazy in the legal provable way, and we would get nowhere.

Good luck! I'm rooting for you!

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Submitted by just.his.wife on Tue, 11/13/2012 - 8:38am

I am really glad mine is crazy in the provable way.

Otherwise DH would be paying to bail me outta jail for instigating/initiating the arse whooping of the century!

Sad thing is: If BM really wanted to see the kids: she would do what was necessary, prove herself to be stable so she could see them.

If she did not want to put forth that much effort, sd18 could surely visit and run tales right back to mommy-dearest about who is doing what and they could have a weeks long gossip session over one two hour visit.

It is not about the kids.
It is about being a pain in the arse to DH and me.
Before she was trying to sue me, until the judge shut her down, so now the only aggrevation she can be is through family court.

Here is to hoping the judge shuts her down (read: up) permenately!