For once this is not about SS
I just have to vent about how much I loathe DH's mother and her entire side of the family. SD's side of the family is easy going and BD's side of the family is very nice..his mom and her side of the family ..total pain in my ass. They always volunteer me for things and events and expect me to be there, put me on the spot and try to guilt trip me. His mom and I bump heads but i TRY to get along with her. She is a major type A personality, bossy, controlling, loud, and can't cut the umbilical cord from DH no matter how many times he tells her to back off, she would probably breast feed SS6 if she could (figure of speech) part of the reason he is such a little shit. I can't stand DH's sister..she is pretty much a younger version of DH's mom..just bossier and feels entitled though she hasn't done shit with her life besides be a military wife and alcoholic. I want to just tell her straight up, LOOK we aren't friends, just because I married your brother it doesn't mean we have to be friends. Last year we got into a facebook argument of all things, because she thought my status was her diary. She didn't like what i had to say, though it was something silly and had nothing to do with her...funny how some ppl make everything about THEM. It ended with me telling her and her husband to kiss my a.s.s. Being the bigger person hours later I apologized to her, not because I was sorry because i wasn't..she never responded and ignored me for weeks then magically went back to talking to me like nothing ever happened. Im still pissed, had she not been his family i would have told her where to stick it, blocked her and never gave her another thought. On top of this he has an elderly overly opinionated aunt. No matter what i say, she has something negative to say back. I swear she should be a suicide crisis counselor (NOT) when my son was born last year she kept saying oh he looks like DH and SS...umm this is MY child and he looks like ME, she pissed me off SOOOO bad. BS1 looks absolutely NOTHING like SS. It was like she was trying to piss me off ( it worked) DH has some OK cousins, one is a snob but i can live with that if she keeps her opinions about my life to herself. I love his BD's family. They are very accepting, easy going, mind their own business, and dont expect me to toe some imaginary line that his mother and her side of the family seem to dilusionally drawn for me. Im a type B, quiet, mind my business, shy unless i like you, mousey even. I dont come out of my shell unless I feel comfortable around you. How can i better get along with these people? As for his sister I want to write her off all together. She literally has ONE more time to cross the line with me or it might be a fist fight...id rather just write her off. Why be friends with ppl you cant stand?! :jawdrop:
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I dont know that I have any
I dont know that I have any advice for you only that I can relate. You even described my personality as well. I tend to be very laid back and willing to get along with anyone, but I am on the quiet side-which is just the way I'm made. Strangely mil is on the quiet side too, so dh thought we'd get along splendidly! Ha! She is a control freak, but it is a more passive aggressive type control. My dh comes from a whole family full of substance abusers-his dad, his brother, and sister are all daily users. The mil knows they all use and helps them out with that by going to work everyday and paying their bills. When she gets too stressed she'll use some meth or smoke some weed or what not for a bit then go back to working her ass off.
Alot of this stuff it took me years and years to realize-hell, dh didnt recognize the level of dysfunction himself unitl just a few months ago after we found out that the sil opened credit cards in his name and went on a shopping spree. I, too, got in a "facebook fight" with the sil a few months back-wasnt my intention at all-but she told me some things prior that my bil's gf had stole from me-when I confronted bil's gf she shut me down pretty quick, so I went back to sil, just to say what was up with that? And did she know anything else? Sil totally freaked out on me. On and on about how I lived in a bubble, not the real world, her family sticks by one another, you shouldnt accuse anyone of stealing unless you see your stuff in their hands (strange as SHE was the one who told me bil's gf was stealing from me)-she called me a bitch, a dumbass, said my kids look at her with hate in their eyes (they barely know her and dont look at her anyway) and just on and on-I was flabbergasted. It was out of nowhere-or so I thought. Of course I know realize that her extreme reaction was because it was HER that was stealing from me and dh the whole time and she thought I had figured it out and was essentially messing with her. She was also using drugs.
So what dh and I did with all these nutjobs is cut them out of our lives. the only one he speaks to is mil-and that is only sporadically and only because she actually has ss14 living with her. Some people you just cant ever get along with-you can try all you want, and have the best interpersonal skills ever, but honestly, if you are not effed up like they are you are never going to be able to relate to them in a genuine manner.
I think it would be easier if
I think it would be easier if we could just say "screw you, I dont want a relationship with you" and never speak to those family members again. SIL lives in egypt right now with her military douchbage i mean husband lol so i havent seen her since the fight, i never clicked with her anyway..kind of like that co-worker you dont really care for but its ok because you only see them at work. When she moves back to the states next year i KNOW MIL is going to throw another BIG stuffy party for SIL and expect me to be there with a smile on my face. Already coming up with excuses in advance not to be there. Id rather skinny dip in battery acid lol. Also i want to block SIL from my facebook or unfriend her but i KNOW its going to cause a big issue the moment i do it
I think i'd need to move to
I think i'd need to move to another planet or a different dimension to get away from these people lol