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Submitted by j-dog on Tue, 03/20/2012 - 9:37am

As of now, I'm not sure if I've hit a new low, or if I've had a flash of brilliance.
I think many of us are familiar with a sense of stress/anxiety when the skids are having visitation.
I think many of us are also well aware of the need to strive for good nutrition, to support ourselves both physically and mentally.

So....Rum 'n' V8 Fusion....new low? Or flash of brilliance?

Paying for skid activities

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Submitted by j-dog on Wed, 05/25/2011 - 12:01pm

DH and I have been married for a year, living together for two. He has SD11 EOWe.
DH is self-employed, and his work is outdoors. This very rainy spring has been hard on him/his business.
A few times, he's asked me if I can do something with SD11 on Saturday, so he can work. He *always* asks me first. He *always* assures me that I don't have to, and that he'll just arrange for her to stay with BM if I can't. BM has a decent, stable job (working for her parents) and, near as I can tell, no life. She's always able to flex with our schedules.

"Their" old house

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Submitted by j-dog on Thu, 10/07/2010 - 9:26am

Just curious...how many of you are currently living in the same house that your DH/SO shared with BM?
Does it bother you?
Do you think it makes it harding for the skid(s), having you there in the home they lived in when their father and BM were together?
What have you done to make the house "yours"?
Yeah, I'm totally still struggling with this one...and we're so very not in a position to buy a new home...for now, at least, it's this...or renting.

Ouch!

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Submitted by j-dog on Mon, 10/04/2010 - 9:14am

Had a stupid argument with DH yesterday morning. It was related to traveling this coming weekend WITH all four dogs (two his, two mine), and various and sundry complications. Beginning with his original arrangements to "board" his dogs with BM (which he's done in the past, he pays her, it all works out, but now she's changed her mind and refuses to take them.) He came up with his "compromise" plan, which involved sticking both of MY dogs in a crate together, and having HIS two dogs (one of whom I DO NOT TRUST, and will not turn my back on) LOOSE in HIS vehicle (which I have to drive.)

Reality Check?

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Submitted by j-dog on Fri, 10/01/2010 - 9:02am

Okay, DH's relationship with BM has seemed reasonable, good, even. Good enough it made me a little uncomfortable, actually, but better that than outright hostility, I figured.
BM had her mother call DH's mother, accusing DH of "refusing to support his child."
He pays child support. He pays his half of "mutually agreed upon activities" for his daughter.
"Mutually agreed upon" has always, in the past, meant "BM decided." DH is now saying some choices or compromises need to be made, as his business has been slow, and he cannot afford to just fork over $$ for everything.

SD10 did an actual CHORE!

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Submitted by j-dog on Mon, 09/27/2010 - 12:10pm

No, really! She did!
DH told her to set the table for dinner Saturday evening. He'd already set plates out, but she had to get silverware out, and napkins, and all that. DH coached her through it..."Okay, the napkin goes on the left, I think, and the fork on top of it. Knife and spoon on the right side. [yells into living room where I am] HONEY!!! Fork on the right with the napkin, other stuff on the left, correct???...see, SD! We got it right! Don't worry, I didn't know that either, 'til j-dog taught me...."

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