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I called a therapist

ITB2012's picture

I had been putting it off, but I need somebody to talk to IRL. I hate that I'm going in again with husband problems but I felt a bit better when I realized it's been almost fifteen years since I last went (the last time was with XH and due to an injury he sustained that he was not recovering from and was taking out his anger on me).

No appointment yet as they are not sure who I will see, but I made the call.

 

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notasm3's picture

Good for you.  Just make sure this person works for you.   The first therapist I used 35 years ago was convinced that all problems were "mother" related.  I just need to quit trying to please my mother. 

It was laughable because I always did what worked for me often to the great displeasure of my mother.  My mother cried when I got admitted to a fabulous college with a full scholarship - she couldn't imagine how I could go to a school that cost more per year than my father had ever made. My mother disapproved of many of my life decisions.  Not because she wanted me to fail - but because she just didn't understand the options available to me.  But I did.

I later got a great psychologist who helped me deal with my real issues which were not "mother" related.

ITB2012's picture

She was great last time, but I did tell the person who took my information that if the therapist believes another person at her clinic could better address my situation, I trust her judgement. We shall see. I'm pretty sure she will see me again. I'm guessing it would just be intriguing from a therapy standpoint to see observe the same person in two situations.

notsurehowtodeal's picture

I first saw a therapist about 35 years ago as well, and she also tried to say my issues were related to my relationship with my Mother. My Mom and I were (and are still) very close and the therapist decided I was co-dependent on my Mom. Co-Dependency was becoming a big "thing" and I think she labeled me too quickly. Like you, I moved on to a different therapist who helped me figure out my real issues.

ITB2012's picture

I feel like I'm not taking the first step to fixing things but the first step toward giving up. Mostly because my last foray into therapy ended with me deciding I had to divorce XH. (I probably would have gotten to that point on my own with what happened.)