Disengage from BM?
I read a lot on here about posters disengaging from skids. What I'm wondering is has anyone tried disengaging from BM?
I've got the usual SM story. Soon as we got engaged BM could not stand attention being off her for one second so she sued for more support. We dealt with the drama surrounding that for 9 months. Now that's over, and we are still 5 months out from the custody hearings I was thinking we might have some peace. Nope. Turns out SS16 is failing school. Instead of talking about SS16, my DH and BM engage in back and forth by email about who is the better parent and who knows kid better etc. DH gets home and wants to talk about BM again.
Does it ever end? I'm sick of hearing about this woman. She's not particularly interesting and I'm busy enough in my own life. As far as I'm concerned BM is his problem. Have any of you managed to disengage from BM drama?
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yes I have. Made it clear to
yes I have. Made it clear to DH I had no intention of talking to her/seeing her/hearing about her unless it has a direct and fatal impact on my home, my family, and/or my bank account.
I don't care about her, I don't care to hear about her... or her new car, her house remodel, her bumper crop of tomatoes, etc etc etc.
DH has gotten the hint, but before he took me seriously on this I'd walk away when he'd start saying something about her. Now he doesn't say a word unless it's something really big.
I like this idea, because
I like this idea, because sometimes there is stuff I'd want to know. But mostly it's her just stirring up trouble.
I am disengaged from BM. She
I am disengaged from BM. She is blocked from calling/texting me, I don't go to pick up/drop offs, & I tell DH I don't need to hear it if it doesn't concern me personally. Sometimes he still tells me lil stupid things she says but I don't let it bother me.