I won't re-engage but I'm so tempted to do so. I don't say a peep about SD12's behavior, and truthfully it's not major shit, it's a lot of minor petty shit that works on my last nerve.
Examples:
- SD apparently owns the chair she sits in for dinner. Since we are 3 and a high chair every other week we have a rectangle table pushed against the wall. Two end seats and a chair and high chair in the middle. (Best arrangement with no dining room). SD12 sits in the least accessible chair by the wall/window because she's only here half the time. So, I'm off work next week as my parents/babysitters go on vacation, so I have a large bag of work that came with me on Friday that I can deal with during nap time. DD1 is very busy, when I'm in the kitchen (dishes, cooking, working) I place her in her walker as opposed to in front of a TV. The only place to store my bag out of DD1's reach is "SD's chair" as it is obstructed by the high chair & DD can and does reach up onto the table. SD12 hibernates in her room showing up to help herself to breakfast, lunch, or a drink. EVERYTIME she throws my bag on the floor to sit in "her seat." Then leaves it on the floor and goes up to her room. Each time DD1 and I go into the kitchen I get to lug my 10lb bag back out of DD1's reach.
- I don't ever have toilet paper on the roll to use, it's always left with one sheet or rolling round on the ground. This annoys me anywhere because it's not that hard to put a new roll on. my sister does it at my mom's house during Sunday dinner & it drives me bonkers. she's 28!
- SD12 and I are the only ones that regularly drink bottled water. DD has nursery water and DH loves his soda. So I noticed that the bottles of water in the fridge were dwindling. I have already replenished the supply twice this week. SD has 4 half consumed water bottles on the table all around "her spot." SD finished the last bottle of water this morning. SD came down opened the new pack of water bottles and grabbed a WARM water bottle out. Opened it, drank half of it, left it with the others on the table & did not refill a single bottle.
Those are the issues I can think of off of the top of my head. The problem is if I mention anything to DH he'll just run around & do it all for her, which does nothing for when this happens in the future. Just little considerate things that the kid needs to learn if she's ever to live with anyone but Mommy & Daddy. Almost 13, no chores, no responsibility, nose in her phone, even headphones in the car if she doesn't like the music?!?!? I wish she'd just go back to her mom's house. I could do this EOWE, but she goes back to BM tomorrow night since Labor Day is DH's holiday this year & I'm ready to snap.
This is a combination of laziness, lack of home training, and the fact that she doesn't take her nose out of her phone (she even watches Netflix on it thanks to DH giving her the password). She never looks up to notice anything. She spent my family's picnic today against the wall, plugged into an outlet, watching Netflix like she does every Sunday. She will raise a stink when she finds out DH decided on his own that she wasn't coming to my family's cabin trip. She feels entitled to be involved in all of our activities on her off weeks, but doesn't feel the need to foster any relationship with my parents, siblings, or my sister's daughter (and they try too much, trust me!)
My only prayer is that BM meets the man of her dreams who has skids more evil than hers and who live like pigs. I hope that she too feels her home is remotely controlled by another woman through the skids.
Then my next prater is that SD and SS one day get married to people with kids and hopefully(probably not) remember how shitty they were in my household.
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I won't re-engage but I'm so
I won't re-engage but I'm so tempted to do so. I don't say a peep about SD12's behavior, and truthfully it's not major shit, it's a lot of minor petty shit that works on my last nerve.
Examples:
- SD apparently owns the chair she sits in for dinner. Since we are 3 and a high chair every other week we have a rectangle table pushed against the wall. Two end seats and a chair and high chair in the middle. (Best arrangement with no dining room). SD12 sits in the least accessible chair by the wall/window because she's only here half the time. So, I'm off work next week as my parents/babysitters go on vacation, so I have a large bag of work that came with me on Friday that I can deal with during nap time. DD1 is very busy, when I'm in the kitchen (dishes, cooking, working) I place her in her walker as opposed to in front of a TV. The only place to store my bag out of DD1's reach is "SD's chair" as it is obstructed by the high chair & DD can and does reach up onto the table. SD12 hibernates in her room showing up to help herself to breakfast, lunch, or a drink. EVERYTIME she throws my bag on the floor to sit in "her seat." Then leaves it on the floor and goes up to her room. Each time DD1 and I go into the kitchen I get to lug my 10lb bag back out of DD1's reach.
- I don't ever have toilet paper on the roll to use, it's always left with one sheet or rolling round on the ground. This annoys me anywhere because it's not that hard to put a new roll on. my sister does it at my mom's house during Sunday dinner & it drives me bonkers. she's 28!
- SD12 and I are the only ones that regularly drink bottled water. DD has nursery water and DH loves his soda. So I noticed that the bottles of water in the fridge were dwindling. I have already replenished the supply twice this week. SD has 4 half consumed water bottles on the table all around "her spot." SD finished the last bottle of water this morning. SD came down opened the new pack of water bottles and grabbed a WARM water bottle out. Opened it, drank half of it, left it with the others on the table & did not refill a single bottle.
Those are the issues I can think of off of the top of my head. The problem is if I mention anything to DH he'll just run around & do it all for her, which does nothing for when this happens in the future. Just little considerate things that the kid needs to learn if she's ever to live with anyone but Mommy & Daddy. Almost 13, no chores, no responsibility, nose in her phone, even headphones in the car if she doesn't like the music?!?!? I wish she'd just go back to her mom's house. I could do this EOWE, but she goes back to BM tomorrow night since Labor Day is DH's holiday this year & I'm ready to snap.
This is a combination of laziness, lack of home training, and the fact that she doesn't take her nose out of her phone (she even watches Netflix on it thanks to DH giving her the password). She never looks up to notice anything. She spent my family's picnic today against the wall, plugged into an outlet, watching Netflix like she does every Sunday. She will raise a stink when she finds out DH decided on his own that she wasn't coming to my family's cabin trip. She feels entitled to be involved in all of our activities on her off weeks, but doesn't feel the need to foster any relationship with my parents, siblings, or my sister's daughter (and they try too much, trust me!)
END RANT.
A complete side note: I had
A complete side note: I had never heard about nursery water until today. You do not get it where I live.
My only prayer is that BM
My only prayer is that BM meets the man of her dreams who has skids more evil than hers and who live like pigs. I hope that she too feels her home is remotely controlled by another woman through the skids.
Then my next prater is that SD and SS one day get married to people with kids and hopefully(probably not) remember how shitty they were in my household.
Just another Tuesday morning rant.