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This one is about my Disney ex, and my bios' SM

ihateholidays's picture

I made my bios text her a Happy Mother's Day. I know how it feels to be ignored by skids...

I feel bad for her. My ex is such a Disney dad, and my daughter takes such advantage. I would hate to be the SM to my bios. My ex will not enforce any parenting rules - he doesn't want to be the bad guy ever, so as the teenagers they are, they just ignore all the rules that she tries to lay down. It must suck. 

I have done all the hard parenting work of my bios their entire lives- all discipline, all re-inforcement. I just do it all because someone has to. 

I am in this weird position of trying to back up her rules for my kids in her house. I know the ex will not do it, so when my bios complain about it, I have to take her position and I tell them how awful it made me feel when, for example, my skids just ignore me when I come in a room, or worse, make a face at me behind soon-to-be-ex boyfriend's back. I want them to treat her better than I was treated. 

I have so much more sympathy now that I have dealt with my own set ot skids!! 

 

 

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ESMOD's picture

Good for you for recognizing that even bio kids aren't always the angels...lol.

Sometimes doing something like encouraging them to give her a text is just nice.  It cost you nothing but I bet it made that woman's day.  Whatever relationship that you may have with her otherwise, you do know the pains of being in her postion.  Empathy makes this world a better place.

lieutenant_dad's picture

God love you for backing up SM!

I do the same for BM. Kids say something disrespectful, or don't want to do something she said? Tough cookies, kids. She's your mother and you need to do as you're told amd behave accordingly. Whether she does the same for DH and I is irrelevant; in my presence, those kids WILL be kind and respectful and behaved.

marblefawn's picture

Wow, you're super evolved!!!!

I think it's great that you have this insight and feel empathy for her. It's refreshing to hear someone with your perspective!

Keep doing the right thing by their SM. It's better for you, for your kids and for their poor SM!