Ditto...tonight DH called Skids..BM said "I think they're across the street." She thinks???? He says "well you have them call ME in a little while." We spent the next 3 hours fuming and plotting, and rehersing court filings...etc... then the phone rings, it says on caller ID "BM" I answer as DH is out back, no one replies I say "H E LLO" all annoyed and I get a quick and mumbled.."Is..uh DH there?" sure hold on...get DH he spends 20 minutes asking them to go to a quieter room cause they are distracted and they can't hear him cause suddenly everyone in the household needs to yap right next to them, they tell him nothing signifigant in their normal PAS'd way then suddenly they have a Christmas Wish list for him...(hehehehe they are getting a goat donated in their name to a 3rd world countrty!!!!) and then I spend the rest of the night licking wounds that won't heal....and then I look on facebook and BM is complaining about her rotten children. ???? *sigh* I remember my happy selfish existance when kids were something other people had and I preteded to like..lol

I have thought about this and even said it out loud to SO before that if I knew then what I do now I never would have gotten married. SO and I legally did get married but we are also legally separated at the present time, he has another place he stays sometimes but it's way too small to take his kids to because other people live there. However at the time we separated the skids behavior was only a minor issue, it was due to something else that I won't get into but anyways he has begged me to work on this with him, there is no telling whether we will end up back together completely or just teeter on the fence for a while before I give up. I have told him flat out before that I believe his kids behavior is what is going to ultimately tear us apart for good, he says it time and time again that he doesn't want that to happen. Whatever happens we will always remain friends, we have been friends for nearly 20 years before getting married. Before we got married I knew his kids and knew they were rough around the edges, I knew they had issues but they weren't completely unmanageable. They've just progressively gotten worse over the last two years to the point that almost no one can handle them. I know it's not because we got married, they were excited at the wedding, excited to have new siblings and his daughter even wanted to call me mom, I really feel this is more of a mental issue with these kids as to why their behavior is so bad, they have an appointment this month to see a doctor that deals with these sort of behavior problems so I really hope that soon they get to the bottom of it all and get these kids on the straight and narrow. I feel most of their issues lie with their mother, I don't think she spends much time with them and I think she leaves it up to her BF to do everything for them, I doubt they get much stimulation at home. Whenever they are here on weekends as soon as it comes time to go they both flip out, espesh the boy and they scream and carry on that they want to stay at my place. This is weird to me considering the amount of crap they get into while with their father because of their bad behaviors but I also think they'd rather be here because we actually pay attention to them. I think the pair of them are bi polar to be honest and I thought even more so after SO told me he thinks their mother is too but was never properly diagnosed.

*Fingers crossed it all get's straightened out soon*

I know some people say shit like, well it's your fault, you knew what you were getting into when you got married. Um no that is def NOT the case for everyone and I am one of those people, it only got this bad after we got married and has just gotten worse and worse, if I had known what my life would be 2 years down the road I never would have gotten married.