My SD is only 2, her BM is a nasty crazy squirrel and SO and I aren't married yet, but this is what I have learned just from stalking everyone elses blogs, that pertain to me anyway :

1. Plan your wedding on a day you have SD so the BM damage is minimal.
2. If SD is 10 years old and starts pooping herself to get attention, put her back in diapers.
3. Don't snap at BM no matter how badly I want to because nothing good could really come from it.
4. Relationship first, kids second.
5.Have a lawyer on retainer.
6. RECORD the SH** out of everything.
7. Stay classy.
8. Passive aggressive niceness to your enemies (BM) seems to drive them crazy.

So thank you ladies (and a couple gents)...I am still terrified of the next 16 years, constantly thinking what did I get myself into?
But i do know that no matter what I am going to do my best and keeping MYSELF and my RELATIONSHIP healthy and strong. Any other golden rules ya'll can think of lol feel free to comment below Have a wonderful evening (hopefully)