Does she have any way to heat it up?  Personally I HATE cold pizza... I only like it rewarmed.. and even then prefer it in an oven.  Is it pizza she would normally like?  is she trying to eat healthy?  There can be any number of reasons why she might not want it.  Now, I would not be running over there to take her a lunch at 12:30.. I would have just given her money to buy lunch.

Enjoy the pizza darling! Don't take on any unnecessary stress if you don't have to. If your H wants to run around and bring her lunch than let him. It has nothing to do with you.

This just seems like an entitled, spoiled kid thing to me, but maybe I'm wrong.  I would only bring my child lunch if it was a special parent/student day or special school event day.  Other than that he can pack or eat there.  I don't get the COD needing "special time".  I'm a COD and never got any special time or was treated any different like a survivor of something so terrible.  

I don't know why that situation irritated you, but I can tell you why that situation would have irritated me.

I would be irritated that leftover pizza is good enough for me, but not precious SD. We cannot hold ourselves or our SOs to lower standards than we hold our children to. 

I would be irritated with SO that his daughter doesn't know what she is supposed to do for lunch for that day. & I would be irrated that SD is negotiating lunch details last minute. 

I would be irritated because the lunch that is good enough for every other single child in that school is not good enough for SD. What kind of a message does that send her?

I would be irritated if he had more lunch dates with her, than he had with me- but that's a whole different issue dealing with Mini-wife syndrome, and if you are not in that situation, than it shouldn't bother you. If you are, than the word 'date' doesn't need to be used at all!

School lunches are a pain point.

So I just don't deal with it ever.  The middle school SD12 goes to makes lunches from scratch, EVERY DAY, with local ingredients.  The menus look fantastic and they are super affordable.  I know several people who have eaten them who say they are really super good - and healthy.  And SD refuses to eat them because "it's school lunch" and she constantly refers to her elementary school lunches which really were terrible.  Nothing can convince her - both SDs have some kinds of wierd relationship with food.  SD12 eats great at our house for the most part, anything I make, she'll eat, but out of the house all bets are off (unless I'm there at a restaurant and make suggestions for her which she'll take and be ok).

And what's with kids not eating just a basic SANDWICH any more?  SD12 complains that there's always a line for the microwave at the cafeteria because so many kids demand a hot lunch from home.  It's baffling.

I stopped helping SD14 with her lunch when she was in 4th/5th grade and SD12 when she entered middle school last year.  DH doesn't help much either because it's on them.  We have food at home to make lunches from or they can get lunch at the school.  End of story.

Is it possible he's an attentive father that wants to baby his baby girl a little bit? Seems okay to me once in a while and shows he will treat yours right too. I'd personally compiment him for it, let her feel special and you look awesome. 

I had soooooo many sandwiches as a kid.  In the summer, with no a/c in primary school, no cold ice, in a paper sack, in a hot tin locker, luke warm slimey lunchmeat on soggy bread.  I refused to eat sandwiches once I hit middle and high school.  To this day I don't eat them.

So I get wanting variety, however, they can make it themselves.  Certainly if they had leftovers and a way to warm them up I'd say leftovers or make yourself something.

But yeah I get the sandwich thing...

I am annoyed for you, and would be even more annoyed if this were my SD/SO. But I could totally see him doing it too. And then he is just teaching her that if she doesn't want what is offered her for lunch, she can get him to bring her fast food! Sometimes I make lunches for skids with leftovers from dinner (that I know they like), and they will leave them sit there and take something else. It makes me soo mad!  

Skids don't have hot lunch at their school, but SS tries to take a "hot" lunch from home every day. Hot Pocket, microwaveable meal, etc. They go through them all first, even though SO and I have told them they need to make sandwiches too. Right now we are all out of hot meals to take, and i'm not buying more, because guess who can take a f**king sandwich to school sometimes??

Also annoying, is I went grocery shopping the week before our vacay, and decided to be nice and ask SS if there was anything specific he wanted for lunches...I made sure he knew it didn't mean he was getting it, but....he asked for lunch meat, yogurts, plums, rolls for the sandwiches, and frozen "chicken fettuccini" meals (not at $3.50 a pop kid). I was going to buy all of that anyway (besides the chicken fettuccini meals), so I said sure. The week goes by, and the meat just sits there, uneaten, as do the plums and yogurt. he literally is not eating any of the stuff he asked me to buy. I finally told him he needed to start making sandwiches or the meat was going to go bad while we were on vacay. He grudgingly did that day, and then 2 days later my SO told skids they had to make sandwiches and SS was all "really"? in a "you've got to be kidding me" voice. I wanted to smack him. You ASKED me to buy this meat and cheese and it was $9!!! Why did you even ask?? No one has touched the Peanut Butter yet this school year. It bugs me that they are so entitled and feel that PB and J, and even really good, almost gourmet sandwiches are beneath them and they should only get hot lunches.

This would all annoy me.

But what is most unbelievable to me is that he's stopping his whole day, driving to a restaurant, buying food she wants when she's at a cafeteria, then driving to the school to hand deliver whatever cuisine SD wishes??? At school???? Are you kidding me? That is CRAZY.

If he has that kind of time on his hands, maybe he should spend it cleaning the house, doing household laundry, or bringing YOU lunch.

She's at school. That's her job, not what she does for fun. It's a training ground for work life and kids need to figure out the difference between free time and work time. (Of course, her father will probably never make her work!) Part of what kids learn at school is to socialize and interact with their peers, that when at work/school your time is not your own because it's not free time -- it's committed time, and they learn to cut the apron strings from mom and dad for eight hours a day.

Of course this princess won't eat 18-hour-old pizza! She can have whatever her heart wishes, so why commit to pizza at 8 a.m. when you might want sushi at noon? Oh my god, how do you do it???

She sounds needy, spoiled, demanding and enmeshed. I'm actually surprised the other kids aren't making fun of her for this! I am shocked at how parents cater to these kids. Let me guess: he drives her to and from school every day too? Silly. And annoying!

i don’t get it. In Australia, kids have a sandwich. That’s it. Because I’m in a small special school (<50 kids) we will let them into the kitchen to heat up but it isn’t expected. We have no canteen (what we have in Aust - a small limited “shop” run by parents with sandwiches, drinks, etc). And no school has a cafeteria. So I feel like slapping your SD for ingratitude. Due to my working 60 hours a week and commuting ten...oh ok, and having never really adulted well as have no kids of my own, I often haven’t got lunch. What I wouldn’t give for a cafeteria or canteen! I’ve contemplated asking another teacher with kids to let me pay them and they make an extra lunch each day, for me. Haha. Seriously.