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My ExH is also in the dipshit club - Is this PAS? Out of the blue - things are rocky...

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My exH had a model divorce, honestly. Everyone was impressed including the judge who finalized it. We never fought. We just agreed. Everything down the middle. We always put our kids first and they never saw us fight once throughout the marriage or the divorce. I have championed their father.

Recently, my eldest son 10 has been making comments that his father has said in casual conversation. 'Dad said you could do that without hurting the windshield, but he says you're not the smartest person...'

Fun Friday Question - What if you and DH won the lottery?

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How would that affect CS for BM and skids? How do you see that situation happening in your life?

We don't even play but I was curious today - if let's say a divorced man and his new wife won 20 million - would his child support be raised? I'm sure most people would pay for private school or however you wanted to better the life your children and skids but in your personal situation - what do you think?

Would you quit your job (Remember it's 20 million) Would DH? Would you quit after the money was in the bank or the day you found out?

OT: How do you teach a child not to lie? Proper punishment for lies? BS7 has this issue lately

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I have a BS7 who is in 1st grade. For the past 6 months, he’s been telling little lies and he thinks it’s funny. Last night he got his first bad mark from school where the teacher said he was being disrespectful. He said he was defending himself in a fight. The teacher emailed at our request and said he wouldn’t leave a girl alone during circle time. This is an ongoing problem. He’s also very social and confident. He will do ANYTHING for laugh, just to tell you his personality.

UPDATE: Found the post I was referring to

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It's worse than I remember... my previous blog today on this http://www.steptalk.org/node/196199
Source: Steptogether.com

Title: I'm a bio mom looking for some insight..

for some help in gaining some understanding from the point of view of a step parent or a bio parent who has resettled. I am a bio mom of a 7 year old boy who's dad has had sporadic and minimal involvement with the child.

I know where I belong...

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I made the mistake of venturing off into other lands of internet. Lesson learned.

Since BM moved away (YAY) life is been somewhat uneventful so I haven't had much to update. I did get curious about other step websites based on a post I saw in the forum the other day. So I tried to join one...

I couldn't believe some of the advice being given to people. (Which, I don't know if you've noticed but the rest of the internet has deemed us all on ST as 'crazy evil bitches') and the first thread I read was asking for advice from Step parents from a BM:

(Paraphrasing)

Met another SM at work and we bonded immediately over being Steps.

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So I work for a small firm. There are only a handful of us in our office and we hired a new assistant today. After her interview, she was introduced last week and they mentioned that she had just got married as well (I'm getting married in 6 months) and she, too, had a blended family.

She started today and I've helped her go through some items and checked on her a couple times and she's very sweet. AT lunch, I couldn't take it any more...

I went over and said 'So you're a new Stepmom, huh?'

And she said 'Um. Yeah...'

What makes you tolerate this life? Just curious.

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Sometimes I read stories on here (miniwives, absolute psychotic ex-wives, all the disrespect one person can tolerate, etc) and I guess I'm really curious about what kept you where you are. Or what keeps you there currently? I'm not trying to disrespect any of you at all. I'm actually wondering what is about your Significant Others or about your life that makes you tolerate all that you do?

CS to fDH's employer: Please discontinue witholding Child Support from wages

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What is that about? He called to find out, but his case worker is not available until Tuesday and It's such a strange request. I don't want to go back to handing BM a check each week. If for nothing, than just the principal of it. Just take it out like it was never there to begin with - so much better.

So what's the deal? Why would they send a letter telling them to stop taking out CS from his check? Has this ever happened to anyone?

Thanks,

Hungry Eyes.

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