Had court last week.  BM has been put on notice - she needs to communicate or she will be held in contempt.  GAL got on record what BM is claiming is not true.  BM's attorney made the mistake of calling DH narcissistic and claimed DH is manipulating SD - the commissioner was having none of it.  DH and his attorney kept it all child focused.  GAL had positives things to say about DH, but not willing to make the call to give DH full custody/placement (yet).  BM ordered to contact DH if she is unable to look after DH for longer than 24 hours (SD has spent the last three weeks at grandparents - BM claimed SD threatened to hurt her BF dog which is why she wasn't staying at home.....um, that is news to us!). DH was given final say over SD healthcare decisions.  Finally starting to feel like things are turning in his favor to get full custody/placement.  But we are not there yet.

Still waiting on psych evals to be done.  Still in limbo on therapy/therapist for SD.  Former therapist for SD is a nightmare.  Wishing we could pretend she never existed so SD could get a fresh start.

But the wackiness doesn't stop.  Since the court date (a week ago) BM told SD she can no longer stay overnight at her grandfather's because of the court order (not even remotely true).  BM added a "med check" to the OFW calender for SD, with no other info - so DH requested the info from her.  She eventually replied (after the appointment was done) that she "had put in a an information request so she can provide complete and accurate information about SD visit."  umm, what?!   Fine. Contempt!

We should have just left it alone - and let her non reply reply stand....but DH reached out to his attorney, who reached out to BM attorney.  Lo and behold, we got the information DH requested from BM....as well as all kinds of extra info about her "mommy daughter time" and then another one last night about SD "back to school tour" - and BM is cc'ing her attorney on the OFW messages now.  Looks like she got the message about being in contempt - finally.

Yes, I am happy that she is communicating this stuff with DH....but it totally feels like love bombing.  I was much happier with her gatekeeping and stonewalling DH...certainly helped his case.  I just feel like this new found desire to communicate will be short lived. BM will be back to her unhinged craziness soon enough.

At the request of the former therapist to get SD more intensive care, DH contacted a mental health facility (because BM wasn't doing it) to see if SD screened in.  He provided what he knew/observed about SD "problems" - and was told she did not meet the criteria.  Now the former therapist has sent a letter of recommendation to the facility...and they are requesting supporting documentation (from her) before making a determination.  Also found out the former therapist is not responding to requests from the counseling group to get family therapy started.  We got a copy of the recommendation.  It is heartbreaking.  

SD has serious problems, we know that...but this therapist is describing her mother...to a T.  SD is not the issue....and is being made out to be that way.  The problem is her effed up family dynamic, which my DH is to blame as well.  SD checks every box for signs of being emotionally abused, and this useless therapist has made her situation 1000x worse....and now wants her institutionalized.  My heart hurts for this kiddo.

Thanks for reading....I just needed to get this off my chest.  Getting any kind of communication from this therapist has been futile - she clearly has distain for my DH.  I recommenced DH go through the GAL to have her reach out to the therapist to get her to release her notes to the family counselors.  I just don't know what else, if anything we can do.  There are some days where I wish I could just not care....but I do...and some days it just sucks.