Yesterday as we talked about the freaking CS ending, the crap we have been through over the last 13 yrs, etc...I told my DH that a part of me actually felt bad that his relationship had turned out so bad with his daughter, but on the other hand, I also got tired of OUR family suffering not only because of BM, but because of the lies and crap from loser. He said, you know what? I get that to a certain extent and maybe it is because you are a woman, but really, I don't feel bad at all. I know I did everything I could. I know WE have suffered because of BOTH of them, while they have just taken and taken and never gave a shit how bad we had it...and to top it off, she told me off one too many times. I really have no remorse and I don't care at this point. I am just waiting for the CS to end and yes, I know she will call or the crazy mother will call asking for crap...I am prepared for it...because once CS is over, I can tell them everything that is inside of me that I had to keep my mouth shut for so many years. And if she never wants a relationship, I really don't sweat it. I know as a mom that might sound strange to you, but maybe some of us guys are different and we can disconnect. I told him that even hearing that made me feel bad for her and he again said to me...well, don't. It's not that I don't love her, but really, we have been through enough because of them and I will no longer ever allow them to make our life miserable again...even if that means, she never speaks to me again.

Hmmmm...interesting, huh? I wonder if these so called "deadbeat dads" are some like my DH that after years and years of abuse from the ex and the kids, they really disconnect and can put it behind them just like that.