50/50 custody case?
Hi, my SO is trying to get joint custody of his 2 daughters to 2 different BMs (never married to either mom). Has a great relationship with oldest daughter and her BM, he sees her every other weekend plus whenever he and BM agree on extra time. He hasn't been allowed to see his youngest daughter in a year and a half now (conveniently became a "deadbeat father" after she found out we were together) and is just now able to afford a lawyer; lawyer will be filing for custody this week. BM tells everyone SO wants nothing to do with the child and hasn't asked for her in a year and a half, while she changed her phone number and has not let anyone in his family have the new number, as well as changed addresses without notifying SO or his family. Will a judge recognize that he is very involved and supportive in his other daughters life and see that the other BM is the problem in the situation? Will it be really hard for him to get 50/50 because of her accusations?
He can get visitation unless
He can get visitation unless his ex can prove abuse or something similar which of course she can't. About that I have no doubts. Fifty fifty custody is not to sure but he certainly has a chance.
Listen - judges routinely see people who will lie, cheat and steal and swear its the other one doing all of the lying, cheating and stealing. They see this every day. She is going to have to prove not just make accusations.
As a suggestion he might want to bring in a list of visitations and activities he's been involved with his other kid as an example of what he's willing to do with the this one.
With his record of "divorces" I'd give this guy a huge amount of thought before you make anything permanent. For heaven's sake don't have a kid with him and add a third broken home to the mix which is what I predict if you do have a kid with him.