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God forbid we have an evening alone! HELP!

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Submitted by hellokittyfan on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 8:41pm

i took SD9 and friend swimming today to wear her out so that she would sleep tonight. its now 1040 and shes in her room with SO saying her back hurts. who knows just attention starved entitled little brat. already had a tantrum because she wasnt allowed to sleep in living room so that she could watch tv. WTF ever happened to adult time and time to go to effing bed! and she comes out and screams daddy!!!!! daddy!!!! what the hell is wrong with this kid??

any ideas on how to make this hell go away? i am now pissed off because im drinking a whisky sour alone waiting to pick out a movie and my SO is in rubbing this spoiled brats back.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 9:13pm

When I started denying DH 'personal' time with me and did things on my own and didn't include him he got the message pretty clear.

As long as you act pissed the "enfant horrible" will continue to behave like this. Carve a life for yourself and do not include SO. When he asks remind him that EVERY time you attempt to spend time with him his daughter has a drama and NEEEDS him. So you give up. She wins. He can spend ALL his time with her and you are merely a room mate. Which means no more NOOKY!

I give him 3 days of being at her beck and call as you hum your way through the day and night with a smirky grin on your face. And not a kiss will pass your lips. He will be so wanting it he will do ANYTHING you want.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 10:35pm

I agree. And if SD is TRULY in pain (because, let's face it, those boy-who-cried-wolf stories do happen sometimes) then he'll know it because her screams and hollers won't sound fake. They'll be very real.

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Submitted by beyond pissed-off on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 11:49pm

I suggest pouring yourself another drink and starting a movie that YOU want to watch. When DH comes in and complains, calmly tell him that you are tired of getting 'stood up" on dates with your own husband because he is too busy indulging his guilty parenting. And then calmly watch the movie. A few times of this and hopefully he will get the point that he is getting played by his kid and missing out on being w/ you!