Sorry I didn't get to respond to any of the comments on the last blog. Yesterday was a complete crap tornado (car overheating and smoking - there goes $1000 in repairs uggggh).

Anyway, when I got home from my own lovely ordeal, BF was in a foul mood. Apparently BM had been calling him all day when he was at work. I knew those phone calls from her were atypical, meaning something more was to come. Well, she wants $800 MORE per month (she already gets $1500/month). She claims that this is to cover child care costs because now she is attending some classes. Their divorce agreement does state that they will split the childcare costs. However, BM does not pay her childcare provider in cash. The babysitter is one of BM's friends. BM is a hairdresser, so in exchange for babysitting BM gives her friend free haircuts/manicures/pedicures/you name it. It's barter, which is fine, but she is not paying her money. In this case I'm not sure what the law says, but I can't believe that BF would owe her an extra $400 per month per child (which must be an arbitrary figure because she's NOT paying for it anyway!!). She would likely use the money for said classes, as she makes too little to support that herself. As it is, either her mother or her boyfriend or both are certainly supplementing her income, because there is no way she could support herself or her half of what the kids need.

BF was FUMING last night. He hadn't called her back all day. I had to calm him down significantly, and I advised him not to call her back but to text or email so that there was documentation. He took my advice and texted her, telling her that if she wanted more then they should go back to court or to the mediator.

Now, her biggest argument (and this is legitimate, BF screwed himself here) is that one of her classes is on Wednesday nights. The custody order is that BF has the kids every other weekend AND Wednesdays, from after school until dinnertime. Now when they did this order BF was still in the military and could get the kids on Wednesdays. However, with his new job it's just not feasible to pick them up for a few hours in the middle of the week, so he has not been taking them on Wednesdays. Now, he should have gone for a mod at that point. He did not/has not. Now BM is saying that he isn't taking them on the nights he should have them and it's interfering with her classes. Which is partly true. However, BM's classes run until 10:00pm, which is in fact after "dinnertime." This is just a mess.

Anyway, BF is worried about going to court because BM has a lawyer (paid for by her mom or boyfriend), and BF cannot afford one. I'm not sure what to do or what to advise him to do.