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Submitted by hardsourapple@y... on Mon, 09/27/2010 - 8:28pm

So I have classes monday and wednesday from 4 to 6:45. Every time i leave my other half get online and masturbates. He does this all the time when I leave. I am so feed up and don't know what to do. I have disconnected the router so he can not get online, but he has videos. I don't care but when I ask he gets pissed. Then lies and that is my problem with it. The lying. Why not tell the truth and try to hide it. Hello I am not stupid like you think. He leaves the mess on the floor and it leaves white rings. I keep telling him that I am not stupid but he denies doing it. He can have me anytime but choses his hand. So just had to get it off my chest. O yeah he says there is nothing else to do, shall I make a list????

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instantfamily's picture

Submitted by instantfamily on Mon, 09/27/2010 - 9:43pm

Best. Response. Ever.

I was going to go with, "this sounds like he may have a problem if it's a constant thing" or "perhaps the pointed questions are bringing the denial"... but I like your response the most.

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Submitted by stepitup on Mon, 09/27/2010 - 9:13pm

Pretty graphic, however, I think this is an issue that could get worst as time goes on. I believe counselling would be your best bet. If he has any interest in remaining in this relationship and want to resolve his addiction to porn, then he will choose you over his, say, "hand" and things will get better. The willingness to get better has to be there. Be prepared to have an un-willing partner, and to either live with it, or not.

Good luck!

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Submitted by Triggerfishgal on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 2:58pm

At least he isn't trying to shove you out the door so he can. My XH used to try to shove me out the door, so he could masturbate and shove a dildo up his ahem. "I want to take a nap, because I work hard, and I dont want to go to get groceries with you, I want to sleep." Come home 45 min later, he's in the shower, and the adult toy toolbox is shoved haphazardly back in the closet. Right, I'm stupid. Now he can literally f&#k himself anytime he wants to, since I've been gone!

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Submitted by skylarksms on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 3:05pm

Ack! :sick:

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Submitted by Eagle Eye on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 3:09pm

LMAO!!

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Submitted by starfish on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 3:09pm

triggerfish.... the dildo up the ass cracked me up.... reminded me of the dancing starfish definition i stumbled upon a week or so ago ~~ sounds right up your exes alley!

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Submitted by Triggerfishgal on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 3:33pm

I'm all for "if it doesn't hurt and adults give consent, ok." But I swear I think the ex has some sexual issues that he needs to work out, before he tries to have another long term relationship. I was his longest, surviving 9 years. Before me, 2 1/2 years was tops. He's closet gay, he just needs to own it. I fully support homosexuality, my best friend is as gay as they get. But don't act homophobic when you like the same things my buddy likes. Friggin hypocrite. The End.

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Submitted by Triggerfishgal on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 3:35pm

I just googled your dancing starfish definition. I feel so educated now....and I can never look at starfish while diving the same way again.