BM at it again
So it has been a while since I was last on. BM had just put a RO against BDad. CPS and cops were involved and they both closed the case two days later and told us that there findings were that SS10 was lying and the BM was just using it to get custody. She was told to stop and act like an adult and try to talk things out with BDad. No we found out that she has SS10 in therapy and did not want use to know. We asked her for the number, address, name, and when he goes. They both have 50/50 custody of the children. She wrote back to us saying that I could no longer take the children to doctors appointments. Mind you that we have told her several times that she is welcome to come and sit in but can not kick me out on our week. Now she says that will not work. As far as the papers are concerned she has no right to tell him that I can not take and make appointment. We have talked to our lawyer and he says legal she could put SS10 in therapy but after the 30 days were up they had to get permission to continue to treat him. I am going to go in and talk to them tomorrow and let them know. She is just trying to get custody and it is not going to work. We don't mind him going but he is not aggressive at our house he is just a picky eater over here. We have asked the peds doctor about it and they say it is a control thing. We had talked to her the beginning of NOV. about getting him help and she said he did not need it. Now all the sudden he is aggressive and abusive to his sister over there? I am confused. Are we right to go to the therapist and voice out concerns to them about him? What to do. In need of help.
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He does everything, but he is
He does everything, but he is working so it is hard to leave. She has never cared about appointments in five years, everyone made on her week they miss. I do have rights BD signed a legal consent form giving me the right to treat, seek treatment, and correspond with doctors. so I do have rights. She can do the same thing for her husband. BD asked BM about therapist and she told him that SS10 was not going. We have called the lawyer and he said that she has no rights to the children on BD weeks. The same goes for BD on her weeks. She is saying she is going to come over and pick up children from BD house and take to all appointments. She legal can not do this. We have covered our butt. I understand that I seem overbearing but when BD and me have been taking children to dr appt and her missing everyone on her week, you seem to scratch your head and go huh???
I agree if she doesn't want
I agree if she doesn't want you at the doctor, you shouldn't be there. You have no legal rights here. Therapy is for the BD and BM to work out. You are overstepping on that one. Have him talk to the therapist. You need to stay out of this stuff. With 50/50 custody this is all typical stuff. Your DH needs to handle this and you stay out of it and maybe it will get better.
Nah the way she talks about
Nah the way she talks about her BM reminds me a lot of our BM. Personally, I take ALL 8 of our kids (my 4 kids and my 4 skids) to most of their doctor, therapy, and dental appointments. DH is the breadwinner here, and can't always make it. Our BM has rescheduled freakin surgeries just because she had a meetup.com event on the date of her son's surgery. She did not get the kids vaccinated for 5 years (young kids who were nearly kicked out of school because of this) and did not give DH the medicaid cards so he could do it. Now that DH has custody, and BM is ordered to pay child support, she's trying her damnedest to get it back to 50/50 so she doesn't have to pay, and she doesn't HAVE to do the school/doc thing.
If her DH has given her power of attorney then she can take the kids to the doc.
I would not invite BM to be there. Our BM has requested this of us, also, but with her history, we aren't going to let her take credit for what we are doing for the kids. If it's not court ordered, we do not offer it to her.
Dh has the insurance on the
Dh has the insurance on the children and after talking to them they say he has the right to pick doctors and make the appointments. Our lawyer says that the divorce paper says that she has the right to medical records, but says that he has to have insurance on the kids. As far as all the doctors go they agree that since he is the responsible party for the medical in charge. So has not for the last six months cared about the appointments.
UPDATE:
Went to the therapist to talk to her yesterday and was told that she only has a temp license in this state. Because of this they are not sure the insurance is going to cover the cost. What happens then. DH has to pay? He showed them the document showing that custody was back to normal, and had letter from his insurance saying he is responsible party and the other party was not on paperwork(said legally she had no right to make appointments). Dh asked for paperwork to fill out for son for his approval and was told they do not have paperwork to fill out. He said that the therapist needs to call. Then we asked them about setting up appointments for SD7 and they hand us a packet to fill out. So DH asked where the packet is for SS10 and they said that it was already filled out and did not need more. DH told them as right now they did not have permission to see son until her talks to therapist. So we will see. We have another Therapist the children could see so it is not a big deal just don't take DH parental rights away.