Skid demanded an apology after vaping pot in our basement, wtf?

Just picking up where my last blog from last weekend left off:

https://www.steptalk.org/blog/grace8205/so-very-tired-it-all-253510

Well DH saw his phone with a text from skid demanding an apology. DH went downstairs to the bedroom where skid24 sleeps and told him “I love you, however you living here is not working out, you need to find your own place. You do not have to find something immediately, but you need to leave by the 6-month term, preferably before”. I guess skid “told him to get the eff out of his room and made a hand gesture dismissing him. DH left, but knew it was the start of something nasty.

When DH came upstairs, he told me what happen and asked me to leave the house because it was going to get nasty. DH was worried that his son would start saying thing to me and upsetting me. Even though I would find some pleasure in seeing the man baby having a tantrum, I decided to honor DH’s wishes and I left to do errands and things.

The 5 hour fight was on between DH and skid24. Of course it involved skid leaving in his car (oh maybe I should say our car cause he hasn’t paid for it yet and never will). However I am shocked how he treated DH, the things he said and that he really thinks he did nothing and requires an apology because he said he was not vaping, I would have showed him the video and shut him up, but whatever.

Things that he said to DH:

“I hope you have a happy life with your new wife and your new family” – funny because I have been on the scene for 1/3 of his life, not exactly new.

He is mad and things DH is a show off because he throws money at him all the time – strange because skid is broke, begging for money for gas, for food, etc. But yet he thinks he has money thrown at him and his dad is evil. Skid’s perception is messed right up.

He told DH to leave him out of his will (don’t worry skid you aren’t in it except his work insurance policy by half)

He told DH never to text him again but proceeded to continue to text DH.

He said that DH will never know his future grandchildren and that both of us our a$$holes.

DH said he was even delusional and irrational with his thoughts and what skid was saying. We both think skid has some serious mental health issues and this further confirms it.

My DH said there we other things that skid said that he will not repeat. He swears it was not about me, and that skid did not bring me up besides using saying that we are both a$$holes and new wife new life, however I do not believe him and its best that I do not know exactly what skid said. I could only imagine.

Said to DH “Grampa would be so disappointed in you” knowing how much that would hurt his father, my DH thought so much of his dad. Skid was saying nasty things that were not right just to hurt DH.

At the end of Skid’s tantrum, he moved out, took most of his things that he could fit in the car of ours that he drives and left. Then started whining via text message a few hours later that he has no place to go. He just got paid he could get a hotel, but he is too cheap with his own money. DH gave him one last text go stay at your mom’s, your cousin’s, your aunt’s or your GF’s , its not my problem.

DH will never let him stay a night here again.

Now DH is very mad, but also devastated at the same time. On the Brightside no more skid, DH will never give him a dime again, and for sure he will not co-sign on a mortgage for him. Life’s problems are solved, well at least for now.

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Has DH changed the locks?

Has DH changed the locks? I would be concerned he would just move back in during the night.

Although I feel bad for DH, for your sake I hope he stays gone!

I changed the locks all been

I changed the locks all been taken care of. I had that concern too, or him coming in to the house and trashing the place in one if his fits.

I hear champagne corks

I hear champagne corks popping all over StepTalk! Congratulations!!!

Ignore the noise he makes and rejoice that skid showed his a$$ and huffed off.. Oh, and good for you for getting out of the way when your H finally found his spine.

Next up, the issue of the car. Is it in your name? Is it on your insurance policy? If so, you may be liable in the event your SS is in an accident. It's tricky knowing how far you can push your H before his anger dissipates, but I hope you can with get the car back or arrange to get your names off the title - soon.

ConGratU-frickin-LATIONS!!!

Freedom freedom let the Freedom Bell Ring!

OMG epic. EPIC! I am so proud of your DH! Sad for him too but that's a real man, not letting his punk-ass stoney liar son go without consequences for the vile he spewed out of his selfish mouth.

Happy for you and hope your SS gets a real life sometime soon.

Good news! This skid sounds

Good news! This skid sounds like a prize.

I'm glad your DH finally took charge, but does he get that he allowed this to get so bad by enabling this kid for so long?

Also - will the car be taken back? I love that he had a big stomp-out and then whined that he has nowhere to go. LOL. He obviously thought this was all for show and Daddy would take him back.

I would have taken the car

I would have taken the car back too, but I wouldn’t of given him a car until it was paid for because of his history in the first place or at least lien the title and repo it from him. But I never would tolerate such crap from my kid. My kid would never behave anything like skid, me and my son have never even raised our voices at each other.

Good riddance to bad rubbish

Good riddance to bad rubbish - even if only temporarily.
Maybe ungrateful brat skidly will grow up and learn some manners when he can no longer sponge off you and your DH.
What a dumb bellend!

Your lucky day

SS showed his true colors

It's about time your husband

It's about time your husband handed his ungrateful brat his ass.

It's good that the man-brat hung himself with his attitude and showed his dad exactly who he is, and that your husband decided, on his own, to give him the boot.

I do hope that your husband does not back down and do something stupid.

Wow that changed real quick

Typical skids trying to guilt their bio parents saying “new wife, new life, new family” yet they tend to be the very arseholes who abandon and disrespect that parent who works their arse off to help provide for their kids....

you abandon your parent, you manipulate and guilt them, blame them instead of taking ownership of your behaviour and actions and then you guilt your parent for finding a lovely person to settle down with and later on have kids who are raised properly because your parents couldn’t effectively coparent together...

my 2 sd’s guilted hubby but he didn’t buy it, he just said they will always be his daughters yet they abandoned him and tried to act blameless in anything. It was still dads fault to move on with life.

he wasn’t gonna let any child or exwife hold his life to hostage... they expected they could disappear for 5-6 yrs and come back to daddy waiting for them like a lost puppy. Reality hit them hard that their dads life was also important so they did their last ditch desperate manipulative attempt to lecture dad that he had responsibilities to pay child support to a 22yr old daughter in university and no longer living at home with mum since 2 yrs prior and hcgubm influence in sd’s was there, word for word she made this one 14 yr old like the holy grail that daddy maintain child support indefinitely... my husband said when he retires soon he will only pay till mandatory 18yrs old, they’re on their own after that

i feel my husband out of guilt, has continued to pay a $1000 monthly allowance to 2 adult skids who have no work ethic or independence to succeed on their own without relying on rich daddy to help them out indefinitely.

my husband recently said one day he will tell sd23 & ss21 that they are cut off financially as of now and will no longer get any allowances monthly and they better get a job. I think world war 4 will start that day

It is tough

When my Oss went off the rails we didn't see him for months. DH was devastated however he wanted his son to be the man he COULD be and not who he wanted to be. When OSS ended up in county jail for 90 days for breaching his parole (because everyone knows drinking and getting off-your-face means you test sober at 7am the nextmorning) I went with DH once. I told DH I would never visit anyone in jail again. Not even my own children. Not doing it.

DH had to deal with everything himself and as sad as he was I did keep things normal. Our lives went on. When OSSgot his act together he had to run to catch up with our life. We did not grind to a halt and wait for him to want to see us.

It sounds like your DH is fed up with his lazy son and it is time he graduated from the School of Hard Knocks. I hope he does a 180 and turns into a mini DH. It does happe Just don't hold your breath. I put it to DH this way ... the door to OSS is shut but not locked.