Hello out there in Step Family land!!!
I am a 29 year old step mom and bio mom. My SD's are 5 year old twin girls and my DD is 6 months old. I am also pregnant again all we are all hoping for a boy but will be just as happy with another little princess. It was a bit of a surprise but Hey, the more the merrier right? I have been married going on three years to my fabulous musician hubby.
Hubby has played with and opened for some pretty big acts. Kid Rock, Hank Williams III, Lynard Skynard, Shooter Jennings...etc. He is a pretty impressive guitarist who loves the blues. He has been keeping it low key and local since we got custody of his girls. Obviously our house is very musical.
We are a tight knit family. The girls call me mom on the own accord and they call their sister "sissy" and not "half-sissy". We all feel very much like family and I realize I am blessed in that aspect since so many steps clash with the skids. I lucked out. We are perfect...our problem is BM.
The girls mom is in prison right now on a felony drug charge and felony burglary charges. She is mentally ill and is on lithium and countless other mood stabilizers. None of them work because of all of her extra curricular drug use. She dumped the girls on us about two years ago and steadily went more and more down the tubes. She has been in a bunch of sick abusive relationships and has exposed the girls to dangerous men because her sickness makes her lack any kindof judgment.
She is still very very hung up on hubby. She cheated on him but decided she wanted him back when he got serious with me. She is suicidal and has shot her self in the chest with a shotgun blowing out a lung. She has attempted suicide so many times we have lost count. She was on life support for three days the last time which was around Easter. She likes trying to off herself around holidays. She is a cutter and at any given time looks like a Thanksgiving turkey. She has HepC from sharing needles. She does all the sick mind games with the kids when she gets the chance.
Right now we have cut off all contact between BM and the kids. They do better if we don't mention her. They kindof "forget" and move on untill theres contact and then they spiral again. We have told BM that if she wants to see her children she HAS TO GET TREATMENT. So far she hasn't dont that. She is busy trying to get her cake and eat it too by trying to guilt DH into letting her have contact but he isn't bending. This has been going on for almost three years....we are forcing BM to either shit or get off the pot.
I look forward to venting here since I dare not in front of the girls. Their mother has done quit enough to them already.
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OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I really dont know what else to say. Good thing those girls have you and thier dad to depend on.
BM really needs some counseling and intervention.
WOW!
Imagr8ma
We have been telling her she is in serious need of help but she isn't hearing us. She thinks she is normal?! What can you do except run damage control on the kids? Sigh.
Having a baby does not make you a mother.
Yikes!
That makes our Weasel look tame!
I'm glad you and your DH are strong together. Those girls need to see some stability.
The name the weasel
is hillarious.
Dudebug is absolutely adorable. We call our girls Doodle Bug, Tater Bug and June Bug.
Having a baby does not make you a mother.
good mom's a celebrity
She's winner of the "Worst BM Award." (look at past blogs) Welcome Goodmom. You are an amazing woman.
"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"
Abigail
Thank you Abigail:)
Having a baby does not make you a mother.