I sent the last step grandchild home in 2004 with a warning that I refused to raise any more in order to keep them out of foster care. [The first 4 yr. of my marriage had been spent taking in SGkids.} By 2006 it had become obvious none of husbands kids ever came over. We have since moved out of state several yrs. ago. FAST FORWARD I have not had contact and hubby sees them once a yr. to take them xmas money. He did get a call from 1 teen last yr.who wanted him to drive down and pick him up so he could spend time with him. The kid wasn't here 1 day before announcing he was planning to move in with us because he was not happy living with his dad and step mom. Our answer was a unified "hell no!!!" Now last night hubby gets a call from another of his granchildren. Strongly hinting around about colleges in our area. Then wanting to have him pick her up to come visit maybe on spring break from high school or summer time. She wants to spend time with grandpa. After he hung up he said he hoped she wasn't thinking of moving in. At that point I had to tell him it was possible she saw my facebook page where I commented that I felt my grandkids were all old enough to enjoy Colonial Williamsburg and D.C. Posted that a few days earlier. Sorry but their days of being treated as my grandchildren are long over. The days of spending my money to take them on vacations are long gone. His daughters should have realized that when they quit coming to see their dad because they did not like me, then the perks of having me be grandma ended. They have their own mom to play that role. Not my fault that unlike me, she does not have family living or working at numerous tourist sites.