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How does this cycle evolve throughout the kid's stages of life?

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Submitted by Glenda on Mon, 01/19/2015 - 5:26pm

Right now, all I know is for years BM has asked for more money. Even convinced the dad he had to pay for her rent once they were split. So like an idiot he did till a judge put a stop to it. Paid CS while still living in the home while paying the bills through the years they were together.

Now as a teenager, the kid ignores his father completely when not during visitation weekends. DH is eager for the child to turn 18, though we know CS doesnt necessarily stop at 18.

Treating a teenager like an infant?

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Submitted by Glenda on Sat, 01/17/2015 - 10:15pm

My SS16 has not hit puberty. Alright. His dad and mom broke it off like 7 years ago, while he was younger and his dad's "baby". The teenager now still tries to manipulate his father by litterally acting like a small child. Blows me away. I have students that are 13 that look and act like men, and this one resorts to this? Like he wants to look needy so dad will look at him as innocent. "Daddy tuck me in" HE ACTUALLY SAYS THAT. And his father, well he sees it as sweet, and that he is a good kid. Ummm....what??? Does anyone else see this type of behavior?

How do you fake a smile just to keep the peace and the kid happy for the sake of your man?

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Submitted by Glenda on Fri, 01/16/2015 - 6:39pm

Im in a cycle where a 16 year old will deliver "daddy I love you daddy I love you etc" and repeat whenever he is here every other weekend, but disconnects (both he and his mother) from the father consistently, and completely. No picking up phones or texts etc. But two weeks later, the kid is here, and "happy" and DH is temporarily happy, but knows whats coming. He finally cried and told him how much it hurts when the kid only takes his mother into consideration whenever anything anything is going on. No calls on holidays, no call on father's day etc.

How to avoid outlash toward my husband

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Submitted by Glenda on Wed, 12/31/2014 - 1:44pm

I try to be firm but fair, but often fear that if the child gets angry enough, he will ignore his father for extended periods of time. Dad does not have custody, and in the past, when the kid does not get his way, he will say he doesnt want him to come over, or ignore him altogether. This is not legal, but she supports the kid's behavior. For example, the kid got to the point where he told his dad to "shut the F up". I finally had to encourage dad to be a dad and not a friend. He made the kid clean up after himself, and after that, did not talk to his dad for 2 months!!