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Submitted by Ginger on Mon, 04/02/2007 - 11:18am

My husbands ex is a B for lack of better words and has done a lot of awful things in the past to hurt my husband, but this time she involved me and crossed the line in a very personal way! As of last week I was 3 months pregnant. I lost the baby over last weekend and had a d & c scheduled for Monday morning, March 26. My 2 step kids were over on Sunday March 25 while biomom was out of town. She called my husband Sunday and told him she would not be picking up the kids as she typically does. She told him to bring the kids to the airport or they would just stay at our house the rest of the week. My husbabd told her I was having a miscarriage and shouldn't be left alone. He then offered her $40 in gas money to make a 20 minute trip and she still refused. So he had to drop off the kids because I had surgery the next morning. I was home alone for 3 hours because her flight was late. I am and was furious! Last night when my husband was on the phone with her she overheard me call her a Bi#@* and flipped out. Now she says she wont allow the kids to come over because she doesnt want them around me because I don't respect her. I have never bad mouthed her in front of the kids, but the last thing that woman will ever get from me is an ounce of respect!

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Submitted by stepup on Mon, 04/02/2007 - 11:21am

Firstly, I am SO sorry to hear you miscarried. What a horrible thing. And you're right.. this woman overstepped some boundries. You have EVERY right to be upset and that whole "not respecting" her thing is crap. If you guys have a visitation schedule court ordered, she can't deny visitation. Set your lawyer on her (or call the cops with court order in hand and go get the kids - or at the very least tell her that is what will happen if she tries to deny visitation). For now, leave all this in the hands of your husband.. you need to focus on YOU.. and getting better, dealing with your grief. Let DH deal with the mad crazy woman.

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Submitted by proud mom on Mon, 04/02/2007 - 11:38am

Ginger I am so sorry about your miscarriage. I had the same thing happen to me about 7yrs ago and it took me a long time to get over it but hang in there it gets easier. As for BM tell her to kiss your ass you owe her nothing and if she wants to talk about respect how about the fact she didn't respect you enough to pick up her own kids.
I agree with stepup let dh deal with her you just need to relax and heal and to hell with her

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Submitted by Anne 8102 on Mon, 04/02/2007 - 11:51am

Ginger, I am very sorry for your loss, but sorrier still that you have to deal with such a shithead at the same time. Forget her. From now on, she doesn't exist. Take care of YOU and forget the rest.

I'm a two-time loser myself (miscarriages). We're here for you!

~ Anne ~

Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice: Pull down your pants and slide on the ice! -M*A*S*H (Sidney Freedman to the OR staff on dealing with stress)

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Submitted by StressedSM on Mon, 04/02/2007 - 2:14pm

I am very sorry for your loss, Ginger. Losing a child is a horrible thing. As for your DH's ex - I think it was very bit*** given the circumstances and I think is about control. She controlled your husband into leaving you in that state, to accomodate her needs. That is B.S. I would be just livid at her. Frankly, if it was me, I would be mad at my husband also for giving in. Circumstances are different though and he obviously made the only choice he had. I hope things get better!

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Submitted by Ginger on Mon, 04/02/2007 - 2:22pm

Thanks girls!! I'm feeling better everyday and its good to know I have a place to vent. Smile I usually "get along" with biomom even though she's pulled some nasty stunts with my husband, but this one crossed the line. I have been nothing but nice to her and even if she hates my husband I don't understand how another woman and mother could do that someone else.

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Submitted by jlmtik164 on Mon, 04/02/2007 - 3:58pm

Ginger, so sorry on your loss. You are in my prayers. That Bm ain't no human being if she can be that cruel. I think even the devil himself has a little sympathy. Don't even feel sorry for calling her a b....coz she's one and worse. Enough is enough from her. You are human and can only take so much BS. Its good to here that you are feeling better. Hang in there. Much love