What is your pit fall the SK or the BM
I see some people come here posting how much they hate their SS or SD
I see some posting here for those hating the BM's
So far I see two different type people here.
My issue:
I do not hate my SD's However I hate their meddling BM. She constantly uses the kids to try to put her family back together again. Constantly calling the father a dead beat because he WILL NOT spend time with his kids AND HER in extra curricular activities. She has made it clear that I should not be there it is the father and her time to be with the kids. UGh. What? Your divorced from him bitch! You don't get together time and he is not going to supply your fantasy world that you two are still together. Sorry but I am included in this package.
We do get the kids for every holiday, spring break and summer. We are 2 hrs apart but BM expects the father to run down there for every occastion the kids are in.
It has been 5 years now since we been together and she still comes around and try to make him jealous with stories that men are chasing after her but she just doesn't want them that way. :sick:
Now their BM is alienateing them. She has tried several different ways to split us up and it has not work. She has found out the father will not come at her command for the kids exta curricular actvities so now she has alienate the kids to the point they will not hug me or the father anymore when she is around. The SD's are so stand offish you can feel the wall going up between us. They wait until her back is turn to run up to give us a hug but I see this ending soon because she will figure out they are doing this. She is already working on taking the summer vactions out by saying they have practice over the summer to do and they probably will not be coming.
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I don’t’ hate SS or BM. I
I don’t’ hate SS or BM. I have gone through times when I could not stand, SS. Then times when I could not stand BM. Mainly it was times I could not stand DH and the way he parented SS and kissed SS and BM’s ass.
All in all, my SS did not turn into a drug dealing jail bird like I thought he would. SS is still, hard to be around because of the way he acts, but not as bad as I thought.
BM, she is almost a non issue these days. THANK GOD!!!
100000000% the BM. She is the
100000000% the BM. She is the most nasty, vile person I have ever had the misfortune of dealing with. I didn't even know there were such vindictive, lying witches on the planet! She is so bent on revenge that she is willing to screw HERSELF over if it will screw DH/me over.
It has only been recently that her PAS campaign worked and my skids do not contact their father anymore. I blame them because they are old enough to know how their mother is but it is definitely because they were raised by her, rather than someone who loves their kids more than they hate their ex!
BM, although I do have to
BM, although I do have to admit it looks like things are getting a bit better. I really hesitate to even say that, though, because everytime it seems like she's pulled her head out of her backside we end up right back at Crazytown. It's like she's just waiting for us to let our guard down. FDH kept falling for it, and I kept warning him, but he wouldn't listen even though he would admit that it was basically that way for most of their 20 year marriage. Things would seem okay for awhile (when she was medicated) and then, all of the sudden, boom! I'm trying to keep an open mind this time, thinking some of my dissatisfaction with the situation is a result of my feelings and not anything that is actually happening, but it's tough to think this time will be different when none of the prior ones have been.
The kids are normal kids, but are getting old enough to figure out how to take advantage of the situation. The situation caused by BM's inconsistency and irrational behavior. I think that's why it bothers me so much. Seriously, if it weren't for her and the way they react to it, these would be the type of kids you see and say "wow, those are awesome kids. I wish mine were like that." But, it's only like that some of the time and I think that's what gets me so upset and just makes me sad. When things go right, they go so very, very right. But when they don't, it's hell and I'm just not experienced enough yet to roll with it.
I hold the BM in utter
I hold the BM in utter contempt -- but don't have to interact with her. And only 10 months till the youngest turns 18!
6 months for my youngest skid
6 months for my youngest skid to turn 18 and another 6 months until he graduates. Then BM's gravy train (from MY DH) is OVER!!!
You can count me in this
You can count me in this jealous line to.
You are very lucky.
We count every moment the day comes we no longer have to be connected to the BM anymore. ( we can only hope )
DH when it comes to his kids
DH when it comes to his kids and BM.
DH is a wonderful husband. He treats me like a queen. He loves me openly. He is great to my 2 bio daughters.
DH can't say no to his kids. DH can't say no to BM. DH lives in a fantasy world when it comes to his kids. DH is afraid to parent his kids. DH is quick to blame everyone else for SS - SS has no issues, its everyone elses fault always.
DH could correct everything if he put his foot down when it came to skids allowable behavior, expectations and BM. Until he does, I will be on this site complaining about the crap they get away with.
We are learning to change our
We are learning to change our reactions.
For me it's 100% SD26. There
For me it's 100% SD26. There are no excuses for her behavior and personality. She's just a Class A Bitch.
I use to did not like to use
I use to did not like to use the word hate. Actually I was raised between the word like and dislike but every since I have met the BM the word hate is the right word for her. Its a strong dislike I have for her.
I think 5 years is long enough to know that nothing is going to change
When a person deleberately trys to hurt you money wise or relationship wise repeatly but can not learn nothing will manifest to her liking. I have to say I do hate you.
I have a storng dislike of someone who constantly repeats themselves for an effect to happen yet there is a dead horse she keeps beating.
Hard not to hate someone
Hard not to hate someone who's sole purpose in life seems to be to try to destroy yours!
My problem is BM and she does
My problem is BM and she does the exact same thing! Its perfectly ok for SO to spend time with his daughter as long as BM is there too lol or else hes a POS low llife deadbeat...hilarious! I am trying not to hate BM but it is certainly a struggle, mostly I am amused by her antics unless they negatively effect me in some way....as for SD, she is only 2 and SO and I are doing our best to nip any PAsing in the bud now and build a strong relationsip with her while we can
I ADORE my ss. I don't HATE
I ADORE my ss. I don't HATE BM, but I certainly do not like her or agree with her lifestyle, parenting style (or lack thereof) or anything else she does in life.
For me its mainly SD and SO's
For me its mainly SD and SO's treatment of SD. SS is ok for the most part. On occasion BM gets to me, but I have distanced myself so much from her that I don't have to deal with her at all really. In fact, I hardly see her.