We (my side of the family) have planned a trip to Kansas City (3.5 hours from our homestate) to see my older cousin/wife and kids and DH is coming too, to celebrate for July 4th (cousin lost my Aunt/Uncle in law/sister , my family, within one year).  We are going a day early to be in our hometown to see other family who isn't going (including DH side) and my DH has of course,  told MIL (OSD27 lives with her). DH wants us to get a hotel room for the first time,  and then head out towards KC the next morning (our first time not staying with MIL). MIL is reluctant but understand DH POV and is okay with that. Note: DH has let MIL know that "since you seem to be okay with my DD27, her BM and her siblings (4 with 4 different men) staying in your home and disrespecting  US on several occasions we will see you but under different circumstances this time '". A watered down version but she knows what he was getting at and has apologized but she still does it occasionally.  Ex. Bm lights went out, BM BF was off his rockers and put them out, etc..

DH did invite YSD24 and her NOW BF and his 2 kids (YSD is officially a soon to be SM) and they've accepted. Raised different by 2 BM's. YSD tries to be neutral and wants a relationship with her dad, my DH and I along with our BK's without all the drama from OSD finally (maybe? she has her moments). As long as she's respectful,  I'm all for it.  YSD has her own struggle with OSD because OSD thinks she still has a hold over YSD as they were kids and now YSD has her own mind and relationships. That's another story...

OSD is clearly jealous because YSD was invited and she was not and I admit, I told DH he can stay in STL, but I wasn't okay with OSD going with US to my family's affair and he agreed because she has cut him off completely and has been disrespectful towards him and  me as a result of her/BM's issues.  OSD texts to DH (no contact in a few months):

SD: hey you, sorry for your condition (he was diagnosed with cancer 3 months ago). Hope all is well. When are y'all coming here?

DH: Hey, we're coming in about 1 in a half weeks. And thanks. 

Sd: You weren't going to tell me? Lol.

DH: You've been telling me not to call you and you're never speaking to me again. We'll be there if you want to talk about and work out our differences. 

SD: Just us? 

Dh: Yes if you have a problem with me and something I did we can resolve it.

SD: What about your wife?

DH: If you have a problem with what she may have done then yes, she will be there to.

SD: I have a problem with what you done were she is concerned. 

DH: What did she and I do?

SD: We'll talk when you get here.

DH: We're stopping there before we go on a vacation.  Tell me now and let's solve this before we get there. We won't be there long.

SD: Why wasn't I invited to Kansas?

DH: Because you are always mad and none of us know why and you won't tell me. Tell me so we can fix it or I have to believe you just want to he mad for no reason. 

SD:

Crickets. She's got 1.5 weeks to figure it out. I told DH I'm not doing this with her ass this time. This trip was payed for and planned by me and She's not ruining it this time. He sent the same last text and still no response. I know she's trying to get her old daddie back that kissed her ass but he's no longer here. These SD's, I wouldn't even call her a mini wife, they are something else.  I have reserved a car when we get to our hometown  just in case he bends to her manipulation but she is not welcome to come unless she has facts followed up with actions. And based off their texts, ...