Burst Bubbles....
Well, the skids came over for the first time in a month. I didn't even acknowledge SD16 b/c she is just awful and I was not going to spend the weekend fighting with her. SS9 was great and I had a good time with him. He's a good boy. BF took the kids over to show them the house we are buying. Well, of course SD16 has a total fit, crying and saying she's not coming back here again to see her dad b/c she hates him, hates me and so on and so on. SS9 was really into the idea of moving into the new house until he saw his sister's reaction, so now he's having second thoughts. Last night before bed, BF tells me that he doesn't know if we should go through with the house now. All b/c SD16 had a temper tantrum. I haven't been around her for 2 months, she hasn't been in our home for a month, and everything was really great until right now. When I heard that she doesn't want to come back here for a long time, I was very happy. She does nothing but cause grief and trouble for everyone around her. I feel bad for BF, b/c he doesn't know what to do and he feels rejected by his daughter, but I'm really sick of her and her attitude and I think that things will go a lot smoother and better around here if she just stays at her mothers. I just wish I knew how to help BF get through this. I told him he should try counseling. I just don't know what to say to him. I've never gone through this before and have no idea how to help him deal with it.
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All I'm asking...is for a
All I'm asking...is for a little RESPECT (just a little bit).-The Queen of Soul
Oh well
If SD doesn't want to come, I would still buy the house you want! To me the two things are unrelated, although I am sure you are doing this in some way for the kids, they will come around eventually. If not, at least you will have more room for your stuff! I would not let a 16 year old make that decision for you guys?! Moody people's moods change whenever the wind blows, just do what you want!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
counseling
Counseling is a great idea. I would move forward and buy the house. He needs to realize that if its not the house its always going to be something. Little girls are usually just as miserable as their mother because that is their mentor and they inhale all the fumes, good or bad.
Ok, what?
Why did she throw this temper tantrum? Because you guys are moving to a new house? Um, what? Why? Is she mad because you guys get a new home and her mother doesn't? I don't understand this outburst.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Your lives cannot...
be controlled by a 16-year-old! It's not her decision where you (and she) lives! If she doesn't come because of the move, that's her choice...a choice that she will need to live with.
StepLightly..
Said exactly what I was thinking when I read your post. I was wondering if this was the first time that he has suggested a major change of yalls plans because of his daughter? If you think this is going to be a continous behavior issue for y'all, are you sure you want to go into a life long relationship with FH? Seems like 16 y/I has too much influence on dad and brother, and trust me when I say that it won't end at 18.
Let is know..
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
Buy the house!
If your BF does not buy it because of her then SD got exactly what she wanted and these fits will be worse. Do you think you and BF buying the house is final to her that it is over btw her dad and mom? I am not sure of the background there. But such a large purchase as a home is not up to a 16yr old!
Yeah, I too want to know why did
she throw such a fit? What was the trigger? My DH went through this too. I dont really know what to say to you to help you until I know why she threw such a fit.
She told her grandmother she
She told her grandmother she was upset b/c she thinks that she already controls this house b/c she's lived here since she was a baby, so she considers this house to be "hers", and if we get a new house she won't have any control over it. She's such a spoiled little brat!
All I'm asking...is for a little RESPECT (just a little bit).-The Queen of Soul
Haha
She needs a wake-up call! Live wherever you want. Show her who really wears the pants in your family!
Geez, the nerve of some kids! "I control this house..." My mother would have slapped me silly! And so would my grandmother for confiding that in her.
*~So sayeth Nymh~*