I try not to think about it too much.  It's a sad day for me since I don't have my dad anymore.  I miss him.  May, June, and July are the hardest for me. He died in May, Fathers Day is in June, and his birthday is in July.  We don't speak to SS so no drama on that front.  I usually get a card from me and a card from our bios for my husband.  Not sure what else we'll do for him this year.  

This will be a hard one for DH. Just awful.

I'm taking SO out for brunch on Sunday but as far as his kids go, I have my predictions:

- some wierd gift from Bratty, probably a gift card since the wierd gift hasn't shown up yet.  She will call him briefly on Father's Day.

- No text from his oldest Princess Leia.

- 50/50 odds of a brief happy Father's Day from middle child Luke.

We'll see how close my predictions are!

We went and saw my dad this past Sunday since I am an idiot and thought that was father's day (I didn't look it up.. just thought it was earlier in June..haha).. worked out ok since we have a funeral of a good friend to attend this weekend and are getting ready for a little vacation... 

I hope my SD's (adult).. remember their dad.. it seems that MD is much more hyped than FD.

DH and I don't celebrate Mother's Day or Father's Day. It's up to our kids to acknowledge, and we have no mutual kids. All are good about calling, so I do expect DH to hear from his.

He made a brief mention of Father's Day, and then made the mistake of bringing up a possible trip to Skidville. I'd had a couple of drinks by this time, and I was pretty strident and straightforward about it. SD used to be good about visiting, but not since COVID. Her youngest is too young to be vaccinated so she doesn't travel. Except to see the other grandparents. Whatever.

SS is taking a cross-country trip with his SO and will be within a few hours of our town. But he "doesn't have time" to stop. SS is recently unemployed so the "no time" excuse makes no sense. (Not sure what happened, but he's been steadily employed so no judgment there in these crazy times.)

Anyway, since my internal editor was on happy hour break, I asked DH why we were the ones expected to travel to Skidville for the holidays and any other time he wants to see them. That I resented that I was expected to use my vacation days for a trip I do not enjoy, and we shoulder the expenses, especially now with gas prices and airfares out of control. I have more than once suggested we find a point mid-way between Skidville and our house where we can get together, but that is met with silence.

I also suggested that DH can go himself. He's no longer able to drive the 12 hours, but I can put him on a plane. He doesn't want to do that. Ok, then. The one and only option, apparently, is to put the responsibility for the relationship on  DH, and therefore me. Nope. I feel badly about his broken heart, but I don't think he blames me.

Will no doubt text her father, Husband. Pleasantries will be exchanged. I am taking my father out to a nice early dinner in a garden setting, Husband and SD16 will be along for the ride. This comes a huge relief to Mom, who always stresses over planning things - these days her health is failing so she will love spending the evening being waited on and eating good food that she doesnt need to cook herself and with no cleanup involved.

I had told Husband he could invite Feral Forger, but he said to not include her in the reservations...so that as they say is that.

SD might grace DH with a call, but I'm sure it will end up being more about her birthday in a couple weeks than father's day. 

She never gives him gifts for Father's day and she is always busy. In the 9 years I've known her the only gift she ever gave DH is a ballpoint pen.

I'm sure Spawn will post some tacky meme about how mom's deserve all the credit as another back handed slap to DH for not being her ATM and cutting her off when she turned 18.  I have zero plans for DH and figure I will get my father a card and have him over for dinner.  I'm honestly tired of these over the top "HONOR ME!" days.

Since we have heard from YSS on Father's day and 14 yrs from the older two ferals.   Over the years they presented some of the lamest ass presents ever.

Then there was the obligatory social media postings praising the Girhippo as mother and father all rolled into one.

I hope everyone's FD is at least minimally dramatic if it can't be stellar.