My day started off very nicely. DH had bought me flowers and made steaks and was super sweet. However, just as I started to think, "wow, is it even possible am I going to have a valentines evening without SD20 and her toxic presence.." of course, she comes jumping in the door. She immediately looks at the flowers I have gotten with utter disappointment in her face. DH asks her what are you doing today? She says I will just go home, and just eat ice cream alone. No one has done anything for me... 

SD20 has been staying at her friends' new apartment for free the last (marvellous) 17 days, and calls it her new home. Long story short: I think she has dropped out of HS once again and does not want her father to see her sleeping in late every morning, and he was on her asking her every day if she was doing her homework and attending school when she was at our house. So now she is freeloading of her friend instead. (No doubt she will soon be back as always)

Then DH has to make sure she does not eat all of the leftover steaks because DD has not eaten, since she is out with a friend. She ate three big steaks and almost all of the gratinated potatoes (I was so full after one). Now she is in her room with the door open, probably eavesdropping and clearing of the throat constantly (she does this when her utter need for constant attention is not meet, we have ruled out a medical cause). I found myself counting the seconds until she leaves, but realized that she is probably staying for the whole weekend because this is what she does. So now, I am going on steptalk and doing some chores, and I'm determined to have a lovely evening, so at least my time is not wasted.

On a side note, DD13 is having a sleepover with her friend now, and they are laughing and living their best life, it is heartwarming, but also a bit sad that her adult older sister is nowhere so independent and socially functional as her.