I guess my new strategies for not giving SD20 supply will be tested, as expected. It seems like her time of freeloading by living free with her friend is over. Her grandmother delivered her to our house; it took every ounce of me to not scream at her; you can keep your monster that your neverending "saving" and enabling created. (We never had the possibility to parent her, every time DH tried, BMGM came running to "save" her). Now, she is a narc (just like BM) that is failing to launch. And I do not know if DH is able to parent this grown-up. Also, she is feeding him all kinds of lies, and he says he needs firm evidence to question her, because he could not live with himself if she did indeed tell the truth. But if said evidence is found, he will. But he also has Disney dad issues, so time will tell. He also says that if DD was working hard and getting herself through school and working a lot to save up for her own apartment, I would not kick her out, which is true. However, I am so sure that SD20 working hard is all lies!

Anyhow, here are her latest lies, she says that she is working all the time (playing the perfect daughter). Yet, she has a history of saying this but being at the mall or sleeping somewhere. She is faking illnesses all the time, so that she can sleep at our house some days, even gets formal papers (and pills) from her doctor about being sick (all illnesses that cannot be disproven, but faked very well, after all, she is a pro). She does, however, probably work 2 times a week, earning money for her shopping. But you never know with a pathological liar. 

She says she is at school, and working very hard on her homework. I have never seen her do homework as an adult (when she was no longer forced). If she is indeed not dropped out of HS, that means that she did manipulate herself out of having the midterm exam, which would mean she manipulated her teacher to give her special treatment by doing something she is not allowed to do. Now, she says that she is working so hard at school that she has applied for higher education, and expects to get into Medicine(!). I mean, it is close to ridiculous; her grade average has always been between C and D! And her second choice is forensic science! Her third is a leadership degree, wanting to lead a company that saves children living in poverty in Africa. She tells everyone this now, and how hard she is working all the time, and gets much praise. For a person so lacking empathy, she surely knows how to get people's admiration.  

However, I have heard a rumor that she has hired a professional writer to fix all her assignments; thus, her plan might pan out if she manages to get out of the final exams, of course. Keep in mind she has not had a single exam during her whole HS; she has been manipulating these teachers as a professional narc. If she is to have exams, I am sure she will fail. Her spelling in our native language is so bad it is unbelievable. It is what happens when she never does any homework in the last three years. Therefore her spelling has gotten way worse then it was, when she was forced to do homework.

Well, it is what it is (for now), I will go for a walk now, practice self-care and gray rock the hell out of SD, if she tries to engage me to get her narc supply. 

Honestly, I am questioning for how long I will be able to stay in this upside-down nut-house.