How would we measure up as stepkids...honestly?

I have come to a realization. I was one of those horrid little stepkids. But my family was intact. My brother was one too.

Here are just a few of my more stellar stepkidesque antics.

Used to fake sick to avoid going to school as a middle schooler. (horrid private school filled with cliquey girls)

Told my parents I was sleeping at a friends house.. we were out partying.

Didn't tell them I was dating a 24 yo at 16.

Fought with my dad (screaming) because I wanted to watch the Dukes of Hazzard.

Wrecked my "new to me" car that my parents bought me within 60 days of ownership.

Failed out of college (but did go back..lol)

Drank my parent's cocktail mixers straight from the bottle. (not the booze.. the mixers)

Took change from my mom's jacket pockets (was pretty young, but still)

There is more of course, but in the end, I am ultimately got not only a college degree, but a masters. I have a good job and am probably one of the more 'rule' follower people ever. Never had a moving violation in my car. I am pretty much the straight arrow and good kid. I help my parents and am kind to animals. I was a good stepmother to my DH's two daughters and am an upstanding citizen.

So.. maybe, just maybe there is some hope for these kids.

How do you all think YOU measure up if you really put a fine tooth comb on your past?

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Ha! mark me down for most of

Ha! mark me down for most of those. DH was a terrible kid as well.. I was just smarter about not getting caught!

Me too. My brother was the

Me too. My brother was the poster child for getting caught.

I remember when he was about 9 or so, hanging out with older boys, they thought it would be fun to throw rocks at some old warehouses on base and break the windows. Well, who is standing there with rock in hand cocked to throw? My little brother.

Or the time when he was 7 and I was 9 when he wanted to go egg cars on Easter. Well, I went to try to stop him. Who threw eggs at the same car twice? Him.. a Military Police car. We both got in trouble even though I was trying to stop him. good times.

Or when he had a party in HS. My parents were out of town on a vacation but had a minor accident and came home early... to the house trashed and people in their bed.

poor kid. They said they KNEW I did stuff, but appreciated the fact that it wasn't "in their faces".

I plead the 5th I never

I plead the 5th }:) }:)

I never say skids are horrid on normal stuff, yes I've done it as well,

Is your homework done - YES (thinking why the hell do I have to do it)
I can't dome to the farm this week-end I have allot of home work - nope there was allot of parties...
Did you break the vase - no it was the dog....

It's normal stuff children do,

but when my parents told me to do something, I rolled my eyes, I thought eff off do it yourself, but I kept my mouth shut and I did it.

I never disrespected an adult, regardless if I liked them or not....

Maybe that was it. For the

Maybe that was it. For the most part, I showed my parents respect. (well with the exception of yelling at my dad because I wanted to see Bo Duke on the small screen.. he was hawt!)

oh I screamed at my parents

oh I screamed at my parents as well..... that hysterical but I just have to go to the movies cause John will be there and if I can't go my life is over....

DAD: No...

Me: I hate you I hate you... storming off to my room slamming the door...
Mum; Oh you slammed the door, please come here, now open open it nicely.. now close it softly... now keep on doing this 50 times, maybe you will learn to respect our property as well..

hour later... Dad... can you please help me with this...
Dad: Oh now you love me again with a twinkle in his blue eyes... some laughing, me apologizing and him giving me a hug and say, I'm only doing what any parent should do.... parenting.

I was/am a step kid. From

I was/am a step kid. From ages 3-11 (with my mom/SF) and then my dad remarried when I was 16 and is still married to my SM.

I had a very good relationship with my SF as a kid but I know he hated how much of a mama's girl I was. My mom said that he used to pick on me the most out of all of the kids (me, my older sister and my 2 step sisters) and I do remember that but I also remember how much I loved him and our family life.

We reconnected when I was older and he was sick with cancer (and eventually died of cancer) and we had a really good relationship then. I'm glad we reconnected.

My SM and I have a great relationship. She often tells me how much she appreciates my sister and I as her SDs. My SM is great though. She is super laid back, chill, etc. She's just so loving and nice I can't imagine ever being upset with her about anything.Plus my dad lived out of state (he moved to SM state) and my mom always encouraged us to have a good relationship with SM.

My dad was married for like a year to another woman and my sister HATED her. She did end up being a "bad" SM/wife so I guess my sister had instinct but yeah my sister was a rebellious teenager and gave her a run for her money.

^^^^ ZERO's IMPORTANT NOTE:

^^^^ ZERO's IMPORTANT NOTE: "...my mom always encouraged us to have a good relationship with SM."

Bingo. Right there.

I will go back to this as the fundamental truth in skid situations: If the BM encourages her kids to have a good relationship with the SM, then there is hope. Without BM's blessing, it is a never-ending uphill battle for SMs.

lol. Mostly I'd measure up as

lol.

Mostly I'd measure up as too good for my own good. I really was just a lovey, responsible, mature, big-hearted kid who was crazy about my family. The problem is...people like me end up being more sneaky and manipulative and/or stuffing feelings until they turn into resentment. Gotta get the rebellion worked out some way. Or we "rebel" much older with much bigger consequences.

All-in-all, I'd take a crazy, wild child openly rebellious kid over one like me any day of the week.

lol. Mostly I'd measure up as

lol.

All-in-all, I'd take a crazy, wild child openly rebellious kid over one like me any day of the week.

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How would we measure up as stepkids...honestly?

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