Need Advice
I used to be a step-mom and used this site a lot. Now I am a divorced mom and didn't know where else to turn for some advice or knowlege. I figured the majority of readers probably can help me with this issue. I have a 14 month old that I have physical custody of. Divorce was final Oct. Daughter who is only 14 months old has been going to the daycare (actually called learning center) under my care since August and she loves it there. The staff loves her and she has even moved up to a "toddler" room. Ex husband got visitation every other week from THURS pm until Sunday pm. Ex husband wants to put her in a different daycare for his Fridays. I am livid. This baby already has had so much in her life. How do I make ex understand that you don't put child in 2!!!! different daycares. What are some legal rights that I have. I am technically the physical care parent. It even lists me in the decree as the custodial parent and him the non-custodial parent. Sorry I am using this site for these questions but a lot of you have "been there, done that." Please help
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Sorry
but the truth is that on his visitation day the baby's dad can choose to put her in any daycare or child care that he wants, unless of course it was stipulated in your parenting plan that you choose the daycare.
I would think...
that the "best interest of the child" constitutes a single daycare. I could see if he wanted a family member to watch her but not a bunch of strangers.
Sounds to me like he is just trying to be a pain in the arse.
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Hi Elle
I remember you, he was being a pain in the ass the last time I remember you being here too. I agree with CG. My son is 16 months & loves his daycare & they love him. He has friends & routine ect... it would totally throw him off to have to go somewhere else. As the custodial parent of a small child I feel that is your decision.
I'm thinking the odds are 50/50 for you on this one.
If XH has EOF then he may be able to decide where the kid goes on his days. However, as the CP it may be your choice.
The closest we have come to this issue is that Bio-Dad lets BioPaternalGrandMa have SS for 90+% of his visitation time. According to the Judge, it is Bio-Dads time and he can leave him with GrandMa or not. His call.
Good luck and best regards,