How do you know how much she spends on toys each month? How do you know if the things posted about the food are true? I'm not a food war parent. I cook things I know the kids like. None of them like cooked carrots. So instead of creating a food war over cooked carrots, I give them raw ones or a vegetable they like. My youngest SD isn't a big veggie eater but she loves fruit. Instead of freaking out over veggies, I make sure we have plenty of fresh fruit when they come over. We don't do the clean plate thing. Once your full, you're free to stop eating.

duten.....I encouraged my husband's kids to try a "no thank you" helping. That's about a teaspoon of a food. I explain the time and soul that went into preparing foods. As a courtesy to the cook, they needed to at least try a "No Thank You" helping, then comment "good, but not for me or YUM, I'll have more!

My husband's kids ate green beans, hot dog, and mac & cheese....tacos. That was it. And candy.

I decided to make dinner go smoothly, feed them the mac (you can also buy one of those roasted chickens in a store) add that chicken to the mac dish. Fix green beans....they ate, everyone happy. Although they thought they were the cats meow and really somebodies....they ate like a bunch of gunsels and had the manners of a hillbilly. DIsgusting to take out. And even now thinking they are "entitled" eat like slobs.

SO go easy on yourself and feed the kids the crap they're use to. LEt their mother worry about their good eating habits.

btw...they're not in late twenties and early thirties.....dental problems, their dime paying for it...ha ha (hope it hurts!!!)

Look up parental alienation, this is exactly what this mom is doing. My husband's ex and my ex did the very same. It is extrememly hurtful to the relationship with the parent that is not doing this. The children know they always have the fall on when they have a complain about the other parent or step parent and this alienating parent is there to support that, and infact capitalize on it. I tried to talk to my ex and husband's ex about what they were doing and how hurtful these actions were but if I said anything it made it worse. I would correct anything that I learned was untruthful but it still implants a seed of doubt in the child's head. Parents like this are extremely selfish, nothing short of evil in my opinon. All they are trying to do is win the child over the other parent and for whatever reason it doesn't occur to them that they should be able to love both parents as well as the step parent. Too much insecurity on the parent's part. For us, it never stopped. My children are adults now and I continue to learn of crap my ex still tells my children, he and I have been divorced for 23 years!