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Submitted by doubletrouble114 on Sun, 02/24/2013 - 6:01pm

Okay ladies let me ash you something do you think that it is okay for your dh to be friends with his bm on facebook when they have made dh life hell. The first bm won't eben let her daughter spend the night since we got married so in my eyes that is not your friend dh says its another form of communication but one of the bm wont even use the firstf orm which is the phone, so am I over reacting or reacting just enough im not jealous but i feel like they only want to be dh friend to be in our business. idk let me know whta you guys think

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Submitted by StickAFork on Sun, 02/24/2013 - 6:30pm

I couldn't care less if DH was "friends" on FB with BM. First, it's freakin' Facebook. Second, it's likely a tool to keep in contact, update with photos, etc.

I'm sure posters will go apeshit about how wrong he is and how wrong she is and how right you are... That's ok. I, personally, don't want to control what my DH does. If he wants to friend BM on FB, so be it. (Although I don't think she even has one, honestly. BUT, there have been members of his family who have been absolute shits to me, and they are FB friends. So what? I figure I don't want my marriage defined by what happens on the internet, kwim?)

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Submitted by Hanna on Sun, 02/24/2013 - 6:33pm

based on my situation oh hells noooo! She makes a fuss about everything so if she saw a post or picture that included the kids she could spin it in into who knows what. The less she knows about where we are, what we do etc the better. Our business is none of her business. If they need to communicate call or send an email.

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Submitted by oldone on Sun, 02/24/2013 - 6:52pm

Yes it's a communication tool but certainly not necessary. When you have a BM that is a bad apple the less communication the better.

DH dated a lot before he met me and had lots of "friends". After we'd been together for quite awhile I deleted all of those girls. He at first said "what?" but when I asked him if there was a reason he needed to stay in touch with them he immediately changed his tune "oh no problem at all".

DH can do anything he wants but he's smart enough to know that I control my life. I don't try to change others - I just move on to someone new if someone makes me unhappy. He really does not want to risk losing me.

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Submitted by stepmomto3bioto1 on Sun, 02/24/2013 - 7:13pm

Hell NO!! Its a Huge invasion of Privacy!!!! Big time NO!!

Its all about BOUNDARIES!!! Boundaries are good!!

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Submitted by fedup13 on Mon, 02/25/2013 - 7:52pm

and another big fat NO NO NO. DH's ex has made our lives hell. I'd be damned if she got an inside look into our lives via facebook. She does not exist to me, I cut her out of my life completely. Now, I know DH has to communicate with her to an extent, but that can be accomplished via text message and YUCK, the occasional call, but that is IT! NEVER again will this destructive diabolical devil be given an inch.