I have been divorced now for nine years and raising my two sons, now 19 and 17, basically on my own. I did not even date for the first six years after my divorce. My boys were 8 and 10 and I felt like they should come first while I figured this whole single parent thing out. I just was not in the proper frame of mind to even consider dating. My father also unexpectedly committed suicide a month after my divorce. Now that I have started to date, I am temporarily engaged. I say temporarily because along with my SO comes his daughter, 16, and son, 20. He has been a single dad since his daughter was 2. The sk have no relationship with their BM. SD doesn't even know what her mother even looks like. SO took them out of state because of her drug and neglect issues. Moving forward, SD started getting into trouble at the age of 14. She was sneaking out her window of SO's apartment window at 3:00a.m.with her friends and sneaking her boyfriend in her window. This all took place while her SO had started to date (of course this was at SD's suggestion and begging). SS doesn't tell his dad about his sister, but comes to me with the news so I can deal with it and his dad. Solution? They all moved in with me so SD would have to change school systems and get away from all of her "friends". They have been in my house now for a year and things just keep getting worse. SK's separated themselves from my boys after about two weeks. SS would take SD to the gas station to get a drink and not even ask my kids if they wanted anything. They would go to the gym and not ask my son if he wanted to go. They would bring home food for the two of them and sit and eat it in front of my kids without ever asking if they wanted anything. The minute SO comes home, SD suddenly turns into a 6 yr.old. All I hear from her is,"Daddy! I need a hug!" "I love you so much, you're the best daddy in the whole world!" Of course, I'm' gagging the whole time and trying not to throw up in my mouth. But SO just can't see through it. She's nice only when there's something I can do for her. When the niceness begins I've just started asking what does she want now. SS comes home and she's all over him in an abnormal way for brothers and sisters. The two of them immediately go into "Bubby's!" area and the whispering begins. I was not planning on having 6 people trying to live in my home when I bought a 3 bedroom house. SO told his children that it would only be temporary until we could get some things cleared up on our credit. Told them we would be in a bigger house for everyone to have their own bedroom in TWO MONTHS! Now granted, SO has always lived in an apartment and doesn't know some of how the house buying and selling process works, but EVERYONE knows that it takes at least a month to have an entry removed from your credit after it has been paid, then another year to make your score go up significantly. Now SO's kids are taking their anger out on my boys by just being little ****'s. My younger son moved in with his dad two weeks ago because he just couldn't take all the drama and stress in the house anymore. He was crying his eyes out while he was telling me he was leaving. So that very night while I'm crying all night long, SD moves her things into his room and sleeps in his bed. Total disrespect for me and what I was going through, only worried about herself and making sure she camps her *** in his bed. She's been there ever since. Three days ago I opened BS's bedroom door only to discover that she had taken all of BS's things off of his walls and rearranged his furniture. I had a COME APART! If I had had time to prepare myself for what I was about to see, maybe I could have handled it a little calmer. Anything that is said by anyone other than SS is reported straight to her daddy! SD and I had a LONG discussion about how we both felt about living together under the same roof and she wants to move out. I agreed with her that there is WAY too much tension in the house and as long as my son moved out I didn't see any other option either. We were both crying and of course I was told how much her dad loves me. Well, it didn't take long for the texting to begin to SO and SS. Of course I was never asked anything about it and was never told anything that SD claimed I had said. I was simply accused of "attacking" SD! It was ok for SD to call my son that had moved out a B****! She was only "defending herself". It's been three days now and two nights of me and SO in complete silence. Yesterday I was pretty much given the ultimatum that either his kids were going to start being treated as equals or he would find somewhere else to go. This, of course, is what SK's are hoping for.SO claims that his kids think I hate them. I'm sure it does seem that way to them because I'm the only one parenting around there and telling them to clean up after themselves. Well, honestly, some days I do! SO then says he loves my kids and I am "the only one for him". I might see some light at the end of the tunnel if he ever backed me up on anything involving what his kids do wrong, but that has yet to happen. Does this sound as hopeless to everyone else as it does to me?