I cant figure this out. Ive read that many of the BMs insist on being all up in your time with the skids. Our BM doesnt call EVER on our weekends, (SD is 4), and if we tried to call her for some reason, almost always for emergencies, sick or injured.. she wont answer.

SD does ask to call her, but its always during bad behavior times, and so FDH says no.

The BM calls and texts SD constantly!!! It is all day long every day it is so annoying. On the rare occasion SD's phone is not in her hand or pocket she is calling and testing BF's phone to hav her call her. So annoying.

Our BM was in constant contact with SD during our time, texting, emails and phone calls. BM would call and tell SD that she was shopping and wanted to know if she wanted something from the store or that she bought her something. BM also would call SD and tell her she was out with BM's SO's daughter shopping and having fun.

All these tactic's were used to alienate SD from her BF. BM successfully alienated her from him and is now using the same tactic's to alienate my two SS's.

The quicker you and DH nip that behavior in the bud the better off everyone will be.

BM started this and tonight went so far as to text my phone and demand "her husband" call her or she's coming and taking the kids. Then she called my phone 2 more times the 3rd I promptly answered and asked "is this an emergency?" She "where's my husband" me "you don't have one my bf however is at home with his kids you must have him confused with someone else". she hung up on me. (normally I won't do this as she takes it out on her kids but I was tired from a long but wonderful day and wasn't in the mood) Got home and told SO "call your "wife" (yeah I know that wasn't very nice of me but I was ticked) He promptly called her and after I told him she does this to talk to the kids and drill them for how much "fun" they are having, what they did is daddy being nice are they ok do they NEED her which means a temper tantrum out of one of them within 15 min after the call. Which came on que at bath time directed at me and BOY did his daughter not expect being rinsed off swiftly and snatched outta her "fun time in the bath" since she thought she could scream and try to kick me and a swift swat on the butt by daddy for such disrespect towards me when BM won't let him talk to them unless they are miss behaving and he has to control them. I told him needs to inform her he doesn't have to answer her calls she can leave a message and he'll call back if it's necessary. He sorta did let the kids talk to her anyway then told her to stop refering to him as her husband. Didn't help the kids as they were upset and grumpy the rest of the evening. Guess we're going to have to stick something bout phone calls in his custody arraingement if we can ever get her ass in court.