BM has always been crazy. Has always tried to get SO back. From day one she found out about me. Telling him it was hard to see him so happy when she still loved him. Then why after he purposes to you ( over a text message cuz you pressured him cuz you were insecure and jeliois and accusing him of cheating ) did you cheat on him and get knocked up and not know who the BF was. She has tried to befriend me only to put me down and be rude to me. I tried to take the high rode many times for too long. I told him to tell her to stop or I was gone. Her or me. He claims its easier to just not stand up for me then to fight with her. Well buddy it's either a fight with her or a bigger fight with me. You don't shit where you sleep. So he finally told her off and she went crazy. And it ended in fine then I will file the long list of contempt charges on BM and ask for primary. ( its 50/50) with her primary so she can get help with aid cuz we don't need it but she needs to step up and at least work 40 hrs like normal people and not live off the government. He told her that and she went off. He has never called her out. NEVER. SD is 4. We have been together for 3 years.

I am mommy. She is mom. We have her 75% of the time cuz BM is a bar fly. Fine with me. But then your daughter is going to think I am more of a mother then you when I am taking her to the Dr. First day school. Taking her home from hospital. Doing quality things with her. Not watching family guy with her. I set boundaries. Rules. Attend church. Make dinner. And subway doesn't count. Her sisters call me mom and if she wants so can she. Never told her to. Tried to stop her. But when her BM calls me to take her to the dr cuz she can't or don't want to. Or for me to come get her cuz she is crying for me and won't stop. That says something.
So here is the e mail she sent.

I've Also tired working with u. U put OTHER ppl b4 what we had of a friendship. We had no problems till you first brought me to court. I'm done with ur mind games. U n Daskra both have attacked me emotionally n she has verbally attacked me when cops were called. That's y let's have courts decide. I'm tired of feeling stressed, having high Anxiety because u both wanted the only thing that meant the world to me. She's my only. Ur #4. My #1. Single parent here. I hope it sits well with u.... trying to take a mothers bond away from her ONLY CHILD. So from now on let the attorneys talk. I'm done FEELING HARRASSED FROM U AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND.

First off I never harassed or yelled at her. She called the cops and I was trying to tell the cop to remind her that if she was lying about there being a signed court order for visitation ( which she was ) that she could be held in contempt. Never once addressed her. She was the one screaming at me to where the cop had to restrain her. It's all on tape. She is referring to him taking her to court to get visitation because she called the cops to have the child ripped from him in front if his other children when it was his agreed upon time. Yes no court order so she won. That's why court. Every SM knows you have to get a court order. She didn't like it cuz now she HAS to follow it plus it gave him more time then before and the officers have enforced it when she tried to pull shit.

She tried to get a restraining order but the judge wouldn't sign it and she didn't show up in court for hearing. Because I may be abusive. But two days later called me crying for help with daycare and left SD4 with me. First person she called was me. Not something I would do to someone I thought could be abusive. Said SO could be a flight risk. Lol he has a full time job and house. Judge laughed. Oh and we harassed her with phone and text messages. All messages and phone calls initiated by herself.

I have never harassed her. I have 75 pages if text, e mail , Facebook IM and recorded voice conversations of how much she appreciates me. How wonderful I am. It all just shows her instability and emotional highs and lows. It shows her crazy mood swings too. Shows she is unstable. She admits to being emotionally and mentally unable to be the qualified parent to deal with the day to day responsibilities it takes to be the primary care giver.

As far as mind games. Hell yes mind games. Isn't that what BM's do all damn day. She is pissed that I stepped in and found out her lil games and told him how to fight back and play too. It's not fair if he doesn't know the rules of the game either.

And he'll know bad word bad word he will not put you before anyone. The mailman will come first bad word.

His kids come first yes. Kids always come first. But nothing at the expense if our relationship. NOTHING. .

She simply keeps sending incriminating emails showing her in contempt or unstable or less fit to be primary. She is not willing to communicate with him outside the attorney. Not best interest of child. Doesn't want her to have shared relationship with both parents. Not best interest. She is using her own feelings ( seem to not reflect her actions) to make her decisions for her child. She says she can't put her own feelings aside to determine what's best for SD 4. Not best for child. She appears unstable mentally and emotionally.

Going to have our attorney look at this and he has all the other stuff from previous. We first went in and agreed outside the judge meeting to show he could work with her. Told to wait and keep track of her craziness and come back and show her instability and inability to work with him for child's best interest.

Any thoughts.