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i thought my mom was bad... BM#1 and BM#2 unite

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Submitted by DASKRA on Mon, 08/06/2012 - 10:56pm

This sounds weird and messy but I will do my best to explain.

SO gets a text message from SD 11's sister 17 saying, just wanted to give you a heads up that if SD11 calls SD 12 asking for boy14's number make sure she doesn't give it to her again.

This sounds off and raises SO s curiosity and calls sister 17 and finds out that SD 12 gave SD 11 a fourteen year old boy number and SD 11 and boy14 have been texting and chatting on Facebook. BM #1 found out and told SD11 she is not to be talking to boys and especially not a 14 year old. BM#1 went through SD11 phone and found this boy asking for photos of SD 11 and wanting to meet up. She was told not to talk to him and I guess sister 17 found out she still was and removed his number again and called to give SO the heads up on SD 12 thinking she was still here.

SD 12 just left for BM house and SO gave BM #1 a call to find out about her knowledge if any since SD 12 would not answer SO phone call. He asked BM if she new boy 14 and said no but let me ask SD 12. SD 12 admits to knowing boy 14 and giving his number to her sister SD 11. After BM found out the story she was upset at SD 12 and embarrassed and sorry to BM #1 for SD 12 actions because she knows better.

This is where I die laughing. BM #1 tells SD12 that she wants her phone to look at her messages and delete this kids number because he sounds like trouble anyways. Oh and BM #1 decides to call boy 14 and it goes like this.

Is this boy 14 (yes) well this is SD12 mother and you know and have been talking to her sister SD11 (yes) well I don't approve of you talking to my daughter and asking her sister to send you photos. The girls are not allowed to talk to you any more and I suggest you loose both numbers and if you contact either of them again the next phone call you get will not be from me, it will be the police. Are we clear (yes) ... click....

OMG that was too funny to hear. Not saying I wouldn't have done the same thing but all I can think about is how embarrassing it would be for SDs. Not saying its not just or called for but I remember my mom doing something like that and I thought I was going to die.

So now SO has plans to talk to both girls when they get here and decided it was not fit for a phone conversation. Any thoughts on this or the route SO should take.

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Submitted by Annanymous on Tue, 08/07/2012 - 12:43am

Wait, how many SDs are there and they each have their own babymomma? I am so confused. In the end the first BM told the boy14 to stay away from all the SDs, her own and those of other BMs of the same Daddy since they are all sisters and were in cahoots?

Either way, it sounds like it was resolved, and I do not envy the situation.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Tue, 08/07/2012 - 7:31am

I love how mothers who can't control their DAUGHTERS take it out on the boys...So I hope that maybe YOUR DH can actually put his foot down with those two daughters of his, because honestly, this is wrong of THEM, not the boy. Yes, the boy is 14, but it is obviously the girls who are WAY TOO YOUNG to be calling/texting, which by the way, there's another reason "little girls" should NOT have cell phones...

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Submitted by lawyergirl06 on Fri, 08/10/2012 - 11:31am

I wish I could say that 11 is too young, but I will tell you, when I was doing juvenile work I would have 9 year olds texting with 13 and 14 year old kids. Scary stuff. I agree that it probably needs to be addressed with the topic centering on self esteem and also on not rushing into growing up too quickly. I will also tell you, one of the best approaches I ever found to that was to ask the girl how it made her feel and then discuss that. When a girl would tell me that she liked the attention or it made her feel pretty, we would talk about other things that she could do to get postivie attention or other things she could do to feel pretty (fix her hair, wear lip gloss-depending on the age) and also how she has plenty of time to date and not to rush into anything. The second part usually fell on deaf ears. I think its great that you want to discuss it with them as well. It's got to be mortifying to have to discuss that with their dad, so another female's perspective would probably be helpful and if you can do that without embarassing them with the boy, even better! Good luck, sounds like you will have your hands full Smile