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Pooper has finally been officially diagnosed

Cooooookies's picture

Finally a small team of doctors really listened to DH and did a thorough examination of Pooper. They said he is definitely well within the autistic spectrum. Yeah, no kidding! So DH will finally have the magic piece of paper that will open up all the resources for Pooper to get help.

Me? I am not expecting much. DH and BM2 are two of the worst people to have a special needs child that actually requires work and effort. We'll see. He will be able to access all sorts of groups and helping what-nots but DH has to do the research and legwork to get it all rolling.

It will be a few weeks until the statement comes. I'm betting zero research by either DH or BM2. Oh BM2 was very helpful...after DH emailed her regarding the diagnosis the first thing she asked about was how much in benefits could DH receive. MONEY...BM2's only concern in life besides herself. Then she emailed one link to an autism group site. Wow, thanks for all your input! *eyeroll*

Stay tuned...

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Cooooookies's picture

Oh SS13 was very much an oops baby. BM2 had female problems all her life and was told by many doctors that her baby factory would never be healthy enough to conceive.

OOPS!

Cooooookies's picture

No, they knew something was wrong since he was a toddler. When BM2 lived in Canada for 6 months, they said he was too young at the age of 5 to diagnose. When in Cyprus, they don't even acknowledge any sort of mental health disorders exist.

And here in England it took 4 years to get a specialist worth spit because the NHS here is just a joke.

Also, I don't do anything. I have calmly explained to DH why I am disengaged. I just sit back and watch the car crash. He's a great husband, not so good father. I don't know if he's just tired at almost age 60 and has already raised two kids so is done in his mind or what. All I know is I got tired of caring more than his own parents so I had to step back.

Indigo's picture

Cooooooookies, you've been saying SS13 was most likely on the spectrum and you were spot-on. Glad that there is some clarification. It must be difficult to resist saying: "FFS, look this up ... create a structure/plan for moving forward ... make appts with these resources ..." The urge to jump in and fix when the parents don't.

Indigo's picture

Dup

sandra1's picture

I can totally relate to this. My stepson is 17 and still soiling himself. He has been in treatment for years and it is STILL ongoing. He has ADD, but I highly suspect autism. The older he gets, the more obvious it is that something is 'off'. DH has been insisting for YEARS that the encopresis is 'getting better'. Um, no. According to my nose, eyes and piles of dirty underwear, I think not.

Blows my mind that bio parents turn a blind eye to this crap.