This was an eventful week with my family. On Wednesday we all were awoken by my contractions and a brand new DD for all of us to love Yeah!!! That is until SS11 decided on Saturday to tell me that he just doesn't consider DS2 and new DD his brother and sister. It was a big wake up call for me and in my postpartum brain I was very sad. I told DH and he spoke to SS, but basically it boils down to the fact that you can't teach love and empathy.

On to Monday, when BM decides to pick SS up for the day and evening at around 11:30 am. Shortly after that DH receives text messages that go something like this: "when I picked up SS, he hadn't eaten all morning and when I asked him why he said it was because there was no food at your house." DH responded that we had plenty of food including the frozen waffles that are the only breakfast that SS eats. She proceeded to explain that we need to make sure that he eats because he is ADHD and forgets.

I had had it and I called her. She had just seen me and how dare she do all this. I explained to her that I woke up that morning and made sure that a 2 year old ate, a newborn ate, and I was not going to baby an 11 year old. If she wants to look in our cupboards she is welcome and that if we would let him eat candy bars for breakfast he would NEVER forget to eat. End of conversation.

So now I have decided that since my SS11 is too helpless to feed himself, brush his teeth, and all the rest then it is now time to treat him like he has a mental disability and make him a dry-erase board list that will hang right on his door and remind him of all the things he must do every day including change his underwear. This way his friends can see that he needs to be treated like a 4 year old with low IQ. He will also not be allowed to watch mature shows like Family Guy (his favorite) because he is too immature. I will not allow him to stay with me during the day because I might have to leave him alone and that will never do with someone so helpless, so it's off to daycare with him. I'm not sure what else a helpless 11 year old should miss out on. I would say video games, but that will never happen until DH wakes up to the manipulation of SS completely. And that's who's really getting hurt here, my DH,who is actually a very kind person that gets played by these two sociopaths.