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Sd15.5 B/M is THINKING of getting a J.O.B.

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Submitted by CLove on Mon, 01/31/2022 - 12:42pm

I thought you all would find some amusement in this conversation from last night.

I walk in the door Sunday evening from a day filled with a hike, a farmers market and being "styled". All social distanced, but super fun. It really was a fabulous weekend. I invited Sd15.5 B/M here and there and she just prefered to stay in her room talking on the phone all day. Ok, sure whatever.

So, I walk in the door, and SD15.5 B/M greets me in the hallway.

SD15.5 B/M: I decided to get a JOB - Im going to get my work permit, Im old enough. I went to the office at school and she told me what to do.

Me: Oh yes well thats great. You can do that now but just have to have a job first and then the employer apples for it I think (I had mentioned back in November that she was now eligible for a work permit, and had looked at the online forms. But dont really know the process)

Me: So what are you looking at?

SD15.5 B/M: Well just something for after school. Nothing too hard. And something I can walk to.

Me (confused): Walk to? From where?

SD15.5 B/M: Yeah something I can walk to, but dad sais I have to get my driving permit first...

Me (still confuse): So is this a weekend job you are looking at, and walking from home or school?

Sd15.5 B/M: no after school, I want my weekends to myself.

Me (little twinge in my stomach): Oh, but your dad gets off work at 5, and you get out of school at 3:30, and your mom gets out at that time also. Any employer is going to want their employee to work at least 4 hours at one shift.

SD15.5 B/M: Oh well I want my weekends to myself and nothing too hard that I can walk to from after school. Just something like in-between shifts.

Me: Ok, well look around and see whats out there - sounds great Biggrin

Yeah. Ambition. Oh well. Perhaps its too soon to tell, but I suspect shes going to hold off on that job stuff for a while...

 

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Submitted by JRI on Mon, 01/31/2022 - 1:15pm

It's normal at her age to have these unrealistic ideas.  Or, it was normal for me, I was the same, wanting a job (money) but no transportation.  I ended up babysitting til I began dating.  But this shows Munchkin is on the right track.  Her ideas will clear in time.

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Submitted by CLove on Mon, 01/31/2022 - 2:25pm

I was working for family business, and it was required of me. I worked every weekend for my entire high school career.Im using my experience as a yard stick, so maybe Im not realistic.

I hope the best for her. She doesnt havea  good blue print example.

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Submitted by caninelover on Mon, 01/31/2022 - 1:49pm

It's good that she wants a job.  I wouldn't discourage her with the reality of it yet but let her discover that in her own.

Plus some places will schedule kids for 2-3 hours at a time.  I know because that is how long Bratty worked each day the summer that she stayed with us.  And now with places desperate for workers she may be able get that.  Or not but let her do the legwork to find out.

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Submitted by CLove on Mon, 01/31/2022 - 2:27pm

I was careful in how I couched my conversation, and just left it at, look and see whats out there, great ideas...

Shes talking of working less than two hours. Maybe the jobs like that are out there, like shes thinking (in between shifts).

I just think that watching her mother and sister be shiftless was a bad example.

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Submitted by MissK03 on Mon, 01/31/2022 - 7:17pm

A LOT of these kids don't want to do anything anymore. If/when SD gets a job it will be interesting. When SS17 and SS18 were both working before their licenses it was a ton of driving around. One got out at 8 one out 9.. one in at 3 when in at 4 etc. They worked a 5 minute drive away at two different giant retail stores practical next to each other but still a hassle. Especially when we both work weekends and SOs dad or friend would bring the boys in. 

Anyways.. I'm assuming if this does happen SDs pick up and drop off will fall on whose she's with... I would put money TT will expect DH to help with this.. and DH will expect you to help.

Prep yourself for this scenario. 

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 02/01/2022 - 10:29am

Something for after school, and Mom gets out the same time she does, Dad picks her up at 5. She wants her weekends free.

Even if she gets a job, according to what she wants, it would only be an hour a day. I know, totaly unrealistic. But yeah, DH already does all transport, except now that TT is working she will do pickups from school.

I talked to him last night about it. He actuall1y told her she needs to wok on getting her permit first. The onus is on her to find a class online, and sign up, all that. I think shes going to blow it off from lazyness. But she might surprise me. I see classes online through grouon for 16$. Im the techy of the household, but shes getting better at online things.

So - we shall see Biggrin