I really don't know but your situation makes me sick, and twists my stomach. I have no advice to give besides for talking to a lawyer. I went back and read your last blogs, and saw what creepy defiant behavior your SS has been portraying. I am scared for you because of the abuse from your husband, but REALLY scared for your son if you get divorced, and your husband has visitation with him unsupervised. I could not allow that. You need a really really good lawyer to ensure that your husband does not have visitation with your son when his son is around.

Ok, you say he is looking at toddlers; is he doing this on the internet?

1) Enlist the help of an out of state relative. Establish a bill in your name, and have it mailed to you at that person's address.

2) Set up your computer so that you are the administrator and each person has their own user name and log on. DO NOT share the admin pw.

3) Purchase screen capture software and set it up to automatically run in the background any time SS logs in. Make sure the program itself and all the data is stored into your acct. so that no one else will know it's there.

4) Document, document, document!!!!! Each and every time your SS does something sexually abnormal, write it down. Every time your husband harms or threatens you or your sone, write it down. Date, time, what was done, your and your husband's reactions. Keep this somewhere your husband will not find it, or better yet, log it in a computer file.

5) Do research and locate an OUT OF STATE battered womens' shelter - preferably in the state of the above mentioned relative.

6) When you get ready to leave, transfer all of the stored data onto a thumb drive.

7) When you leave, *leave* the state!!!!!! Hopefully, you'll have logged enough time in the relative's state that you can establish residency there, and your husband will have to wage the legal battle there. If not, file an emegergency request to have the venue established where you live; present the evidence gathered in steps 2 and 3 as the reasons you had to leave state in the hearing.

Use this evidence also in the divorce proceedings as to why your husband should only have supervised visits with your son, and why your son should not under any circumstances be exposed to SS.

Unfortunately, I have no ideas in regards to work from home income options, but most places will offer legal aid to people in desperate situations who also have no or little income. Chin up, honey, and good luck.

Document EVERYTHING. Photos, recordings, notes, etc. The more you have showing that he is an unstable and disturbing individual, the better the chances of not having to send your son to him. Do not only document your husband's behavior, but your stepson's as well. I am assuming that when you say "looking at toddlers and men" he is becoming some sort of sexual deviant, which in turn could cause harm to your son. Just make sure everything is well documented. Contact an attorney, most of them will offer a free consultation in which you can find out how much it will cost you and what all you will need to do. But the most important thing is to document anything you can. Check with your state, but in most, only one person in the conversation has to agree to be recorded. Start a file of everything and either keep it in a safe, a safety deposit box or somewhere where your husband, nor anyone else, can get to it. (Yes, even if you move out). Some women's shelters can help you find a home, an attorney and other things, especially since he is being abusive. They may also have some information on what and how to effectively document.

Here's a list of Women's Help Centers in UT: http://www.aardvarc.org/dv/states/utdv.shtml

As for at home jobs, the only legitimate ones I am aware of are things like Avon, Scentsy, Perfectly Posh, Mary Kay...and all those do have start up costs. If you can be dedicated, you can try Amazon Mechanical Turk, the money is slow to start and sometimes there are waiting periods for your work to be approved. If you have an affinity for writing, transcripting or IT, elance.com has some higher priced works you can try out. Some people on there make 1-4k PER JOB. I tried it but it just wasn't my thing.

I work from home as a medical transcriptionist, but starting out is really really slow and it takes a while to get up to speed with not only typing from dictation, but also the medical terminology for each subfield. I also do not know many places that hire without some sort of "training", even online options, and then it is still hard as they want 3 to 5 years of experience most places. I tried leaving this company for another, and I didn't get in to either place with 4 years experience because I do not have "acute care" experience. Not that it cannot be done, but it takes time and you get paid production as a contractor most places, which means pay is not always so awesome, again depends on where you get on and if you get on.

I hope you are able to do what the above poster listed, that was very thorough and clear. I hope you have a relative you can depend on to help you get out or even a friend out of state.

Be careful about leaving the state with your son unless you have a job there that will pay you exceptional money. Most states have removal laws and most judges do not like moms who take off and leave the state with their children without permission. They see it, rightly or wrongly, as an attempt to keep the other parent from having a relationship. It could bite you in the ass and result in you losing custody and having to return the child to him. Worse, it could result in you ending up with the supervised visitation.

As far as an attorney is concerned, if you can't afford to hire one, go through legal aid, at least for the initial stuff. Most legal aid offices give preference to domestic violence situation cases because that is what they are there for. If you don't have legal aid, or can't qualify start calling the law schools (if there are any) in your state. Also call the bar association. Most bar associations have volunteer lawyer projects that have lawyers who do pro bono, or substantially reduced rates, on these types of cases. If you are unemployed, it is only your income that they will take into account. Do this on the sly, plan ahead and make sure you have a safe place to go when the papers are filed. Start talking to family and friends who know your situation and get affidavits from them. Start documenting your own experience because you will have to provide an affidavit to the court to justify your custody.

I hate to poo on the other advice here, but tread very lightly before you decide to remove a child from the state. At the very least call an attorney and if you can rustle up a couple hundred dollars, do a consult, and make sure you ask about the state rules on removing children from the jurisdiction. Let me know if you need more info. You can private message me as well.